Does anyone else find yourself a target for bullies or just people who treat you like crap?

[Marvelfan77]

I'm not sure if it's due to my autism or my low self esteem, possibly a combination of both, but I have often found myself a target of other people's anger or hostility. I often question why I even deserve it because I'm a pretty quiet unassuming person for the most part.

Just today there was a thread on mumsnet about a woman who was living rurally, didn't know many people and was looking for ways to cheer herself up. I suggested maybe she could treat herself to some new clothes or a handbag or something like that. However, another poster gave a really nasty response about how "Handbags aren't likely to help someone who is socially isolated ", this same posters suggestion to the OP was to drink whisky on her sofa.
It's just little instances like this that seem to happen on a constant basis. I just feel I am constantly singled out to be bullied and its just making me not want to bother with the majority of people anymore.

Does this kinda stuff happen to anyone else or is it perhaps just me being overly sensitive?

Any suggestion is valid. Some people like to have a go at anyone for some reason

Yeah. Shit isn't it.

Im awaiting diagnosis for adhd and potentially autism and ive experienced this in real life alot.
Bullied and excluded in my recent workplace wbich made me look back on my career.
Ive often been the odd one out.
Mostly i was the only woman now i wonder if i stood out.
Ive had nasty comebacks on here but i dont worry as i dont know the person and vis versa.

I suffer with low self esteem (although I desperately try to hide it..) and there is a possibility that I’m on the spectrum too. I’ve had jobs where I’ve found myself being unliked by certain colleagues (women usually) and bullied. I have literally two friends in my life and my lovely mum. I worry about my adult DD as she’s ADHD and ASD. My MH has suffered due to the bullying and people talking shit about me. Whilst I’m sensitive in nature I find it harder to cope with as the years go on. I’m looking for a new job now and dread how hard it will be for me.

I had an autism assessment recently and they asked me how much I had been bullied. Being autistic attracts this behaviour, but we don’t deserve it. The world is full of vile people.

I wouln't worry about nasty comments on Mumsnet since there are so many nasty posts that you have definitely not been singled out.

I have experienced bullying in my life though. I wonder if part of it is because I am so quiet and don't stick up for myself enough.

I'm much more likely to experience people ignoring me and leaving me out, again possibly because I am too quiet so people can just skip over me.

I hear you, OP. I’m autistic too and I’m never quite sure if I genuinely do attract more arseholes than average or whether I just dwell on nasty comments etc a lot more than most. I’ve found it’s got a bit easier as I’ve got older - I was very good-looking as a young woman (not anymore!) and so lots of people would approach me at work, socially etc to strike up a conversation, but as soon as they’d spoken to me I could always see it dawning on them that I was “different” and most would either run a mile and blank me thereafter, or just be unpleasant/snide/condescending. Luckily now I’m middle-aged I’ve cultivated a pretty good don’t-fuck-with-me aura (hard won after years fighting for support for my also-autistic DC) so people don’t tend to bother me as much. I still waste a ton of energy fretting about people’s behaviour, but I’ve got better at shaking it off and judging who’s worth my time. My social circle is much smaller but I prefer it that way. I also found coming off social media to be really helpful as it was really quite toxic for me… I have an anonymous account to follow a couple of ND-related groups but that’s it.