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Don’t know what to say

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Pibolar · 30/10/2023 21:25

Background:
single parent
been having problems with ds13 at school since primary. Emails, phone calls, messages etc from various staff saying he’s disrupting the class, having meltdowns and storming off amongst other things. This has led to a chat with head of year at secondary, she mentioned the possibility of him having ASC. Process has been started but waiting for assessment.

I did my own research on this and looked at ADHD too as I thought this might also fit. Anyway turns out I have all the symptoms of ADHD (and some autism) I go for an assessment and it turns out i actually have bipolar, possibly ADHD too. Life now makes sense.

present day:
still getting emails etc telling me ds is being disruptive, forgetting things, losing things and not focusing.

meanwhile, I’m really struggling with even the basics. I’m at the point where it takes me all day just to get ready, do the kitchen, walk dog, and perhaps do one other thing…. Before ds gets home and all hell breaks loose and then it’s time for dinner and bed. I’m literally chasing my tail all day, constantly losing and forgetting things, don’t have the mental capacity for ‘admin’. Leaving stuff till last minute, struggling to even plan what to eat, basically all the traits. how I’ve even managed to write this i don’t know.

I’m finding it hard to support ds with his troubles when i can’t even do the stuff most people do before doing a full days work.

It’s like the blind leading the blind 🤣

His teacher is calling me to discuss (doesn’t know/understand the half of it), what do I say?

Should i even tell the school about how I’m finding it hard to support him and why? Is there anything they can do?

has anyone had experience or got advice on this. Thank you

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BlackeyedSusan · 04/11/2023 21:03

Say you suspect he has ADHD and or autism and ask them to help send in a referral.

Ask to speak to the Sendco to arrange support in the mean time.

Pibolar · 05/11/2023 10:39

Thanks for your reply.

I have already done what I believe to be the referal last year but have had no communication since, despite chasing.

His tutor is going to put some things in place to help him, I will see if I can have a chat with them too seeing as things have been put in place before and this hasn’t worked.

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