DH creates issues with ND son

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I am lost...my DS received his diagnosis of Autism recently. He's all probably got ADHD. His dad triggers him constantly..and I end up caught in the middle. My DH just CANNOT seem to understand how to communicate with DS and make any accommodations the child needs. I am exhausted. I am the child's comfort blanket-he sleeps with us (me) every night-he seems to need me to co-regulate. I am working, studying and broken. I need support from DH but he seems utterly oblivious to anyone needs but his own. I have tried and tried to talk to him, we have argued. I go round and round in circles..any suggestions. Any light bulb moment you'd like to share?

Will a book help?

Ask a male professional involved in your son's care to have a 1 to 1 with your husband to explain how to parent a neurodiverse child. If it's not possible, book him on a course for parenting neurodiverse children.

It's a very common problem that Dads cannot seem to accept their children need different parenting, often that's because the Dads themselves are undiagnosed neurodiverse.