I have no friends

[Fleurbombeury]

I have 2 friends, we’ve been friends since the beginning of secondary school, 16 years ago. They’ve been friends since primary school, as they went to the same one. We didn’t really have contact throughout uni, no particular reason other than we went to different unis and they found more friends. Whereas I didn’t. We’ve been better friends for the last 5 years. Seeing each other every 2-4 months. I know it’s not much but I just assumed they were busy, they have full time jobs, one had a baby in may. I went to the small baby shower.

They posted pictures from a cocktail night, just the two of them. I know they’re closer to each other than to me. But it fucking hurt. I thought we were close friends. They don’t see me in the same way I see them.

I just honestly don’t see the fucking point in trying. I feel like cutting off my nose to spite my face. Yeah, it’s ridiculous, but honestly I’m just so hurt.

im not going to say anything.

That is hurtful

I had a similar experience five years ago now. I never mentioned it to either of them nor did they say anything to me. It really hurt my feelings and so I’ve never really bothered since with anyone since.

I didn’t have many friends as it was!

I get it, but maybe organise night for all 3 of you and see what they say? You'll have your answer.

I don’t have any friends either. They’ve all fizzled out unfortunately and I don’t mind my own company but sometimes I do wonder what having a friend would be like, does anyone relate?

Yep. I have a few acquitances and actually, a very successful marriage, but I cannot make friends. It's shit.

To add, I don't understand why

I’m currently watching my ASD teenage son withdraw from everyone and honestly if there’s one bit of advice I wish he would take it’s to reach out to people. I do think if we get hurt it’s easy to withdraw but the outcome then is definitely less (or no) friends. If we make an effort to reach out and tell people their friendship means a lot to us then we’re more likely to have that reciprocated.
I hope it works out for you

I get what you are saying. But if we reach out we can be ridiculed, seen as needy or weak or desperate. All names I've been called. Also a lot of people will treat you like shit if they think this of you. I wanted to fit in when younger and so would spend time with people who weren't real friends and didn't care about me. Now I have no friends but I have peace of mind and no one can hurt me or let me down again.

That was for @Gem2006

That’s hurtful, I’m sorry you’ve been treated this way.

I’ve lost touch with the few friends I had and can feel lonely sometimes. It’s when I hear others talking about going out knowing I’ll be at home watching TV with the dog. I try to chat with people but I know I don’t fit in.

Glad to hear you have 2 friends. Try to organise a get-together to catch up. Could it be you're scared to put in the legwork for fear of being seen as weird, or needy so to them appear uninterested or aloof? Just an idea really. I genuinely have no friends, so clueless!

I also have no friends and just not the social skills. So hard.

As an adult I have no friends.
Plenty of aquantacies.

How hurtful for you OP! So sorry this happened to you.
I have no friends as such, just a few work colleagues and acquaintances.
I do feel lonely but am no longer on Fakebook so avoid all the photos thankfully.