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Not having interest/can't put in effort

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Mumtoboys1 · 18/08/2023 23:40

Hi, possible undiagnosed ADHD/ASD here, I just wanted to know if anyone else has this issue.

If I am not interested in something/don't want to do it, I really struggle, If not find it impossible and hate to put effort into it. And I don't have many interests at all. But it's causing a strain on my relationship as I can't seem to put effort in for him if I don't want to do something. It makes me feel so selfish. I've only just come to realise it. I have thoughts like ' but I don't want to do it' like thats a valid reason to not do something. I've been raised that way though, growing up if I didn't want to do something or go somewhere my parents didn't force me to.

Problem is I don't have many interests at all. I could literally sit in silence all day not doing much at all. - that's not what I do obviously, I have 2 kids. But I feel because I dont have a want to do much at all, I'm just going to end up miserable forcing myself to do lots of stuff I don't want. This is not the case for me when it comes to parenting. I happily sacrifice everything for them. But this issue is ruining my relationship with their dad.

OP posts:
KaliforniaDreamz · 07/09/2023 12:56

I feel quite similar to this, even though when i was younger i did have interests. i think it's a form of burnout for me, i cope by pretending!!! otherwise i would do nothing at all!! I never want to go out and it drives my DH mad, but also i often find once i get there i enjoy myself.
SO in essence ny advice is fake it 'til you make it.

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