Is it just standard to have shoddy mental health if you're not NT?

[ErinAndTonic]

I just feel like I'm always on a loop - some days I'm good and grateful for what I've got, content enough.. but then it's like a fog comes over me and I feel lost, overwhelmed, and like I can't cope and get on top of life.

Is this just how it is?

I'm not medicated (diagnosed adhd but 'atypical' apparently with autistic traits so likely have a bit of a combo deal going on) - not sure I want to add medications into the mix as my body doesn't react well to them, plus I've read it just increased the autistic elements when you have both.

I feel a bit 'stuck in a rut' when it comes to my job, perma WFH, struggling with making new friends, not having enough adventure and fun in my life anymore, but also so low on time and energy.

Is this just me?

I think it’s being discriminated against and excluded that leads so many ND people to have poor mental health. Humans are a social species - it’s hard when you’re constantly rejected and have no friends, nobody will hire you even if you’re highly qualified, and you basically feel bad about yourself because you know people hate you.

Hi I could have written this post. I feel very much like you do I'm still anxiously waiting for my assessments for both ADHD/asd. It's really stirred up alot for me and I'm not coping well that's before I'm even diagnosed. I'm not sure what I will do after.
I feel ok enough some days and others total meltdown overwhelm where I feel trapped lost sad going round in a constant loop and no way off.
I'm similar to you in that I react very easily to medication and feel very weird on the antidepressants I have tried previously.

This reply is no help sorry just wanted to say your not alone.

Just to say this resonates with me as well. I was diagnosed ADHD previously but on NHS waitlist to be reassessed for that and ASD. The flips from coping ok to not coping at all are really disorientating.

Whatever I have going on I would say I'm very high masking so I'm not usually experiencing overt exclusion, but I'm aware that I am not often experiencing genuine connection with people and I feel l live in a constant state of translating the contents of my brain into the foreign language that others seem to speak, so that definitely adds to things. My friends are mainly my husbands friends. I don't even know if I want friends.

My general executive dysfunction makes it hard to do the tasks of life, but then my relatively high abilities in some areas lead me to places of overwhelm.

All very confusing and contradictory.

I can relate to this too. Some days I feel on top of the world and others I feel sad and restless. I’ve done a lot to make my life and environment work for me and my self esteem is the best it has ever been, but I still get like this. Assessment is next month!