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dontlookbackyourenotgoingthatway · 2023-05-08T09:09:15+00:00

Only just seen this. It was painful to watch as it was scarily similar to my adolescence. I thought that the school situation was a bit too positive though. Little bullying, plenty of friends and a sleepover? Really? That was definitely not my experience at school (15 years ago). Have things changed?

BertieBotts · 08/05/2023 10:40

No idea what you are talking about. Do you have a link?

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dontlookbackyourenotgoingthatway · 08/05/2023 10:50

BertieBotts · 08/05/2023 10:40

No idea what you are talking about. Do you have a link?

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dontlookbackyourenotgoingthatway · 08/05/2023 21:20

No-one?

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90redbaloons · 09/05/2023 11:55

I relate too well to this video aswell though my school experience wasn't half as positive

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dontlookbackyourenotgoingthatway · 09/05/2023 12:21

90redbaloons · 09/05/2023 11:55

I relate too well to this video aswell though my school experience wasn't half as positive

Same.

Kids like her/me got the shit kicked out of them

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Craftycorvid · 10/05/2023 07:38

School was rather a hellscape for me, too! I hope the ad’ reflects greater tolerance and kindness and kindness amongst kids, but it does also look like a neurotypical romantic notion as well. Er, how many kids whose nervous systems are overloaded at school are going to sign up for sleepovers, I wonder?

nosykids · 10/05/2023 07:42

I completely agree that the portrayal of school was unrealistic. Also, I think the NT eye is drawn towards the sister and her experience of having an autistic sibling - I know that quite a bit of the discussion on AIBU was focused on that. It's difficult, because obviously the experiences of everyone within a family are valid and important, but it is so often the case that autistic people's difficulties are measured against the impact they have on the NT individuals around them. There is so much focus on the NT making reasonable adjustments for autistic individuals, but it is never really acknowledged that autistic people are almost constantly trying to adjust themselves to fit into the NT world.

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dontlookbackyourenotgoingthatway · 10/05/2023 09:46

Craftycorvid · 10/05/2023 07:38

School was rather a hellscape for me, too! I hope the ad’ reflects greater tolerance and kindness and kindness amongst kids, but it does also look like a neurotypical romantic notion as well. Er, how many kids whose nervous systems are overloaded at school are going to sign up for sleepovers, I wonder?

Or even be invited

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emiliaofnewmoon · 14/05/2023 14:14

nosykids · 10/05/2023 07:42

I completely agree that the portrayal of school was unrealistic. Also, I think the NT eye is drawn towards the sister and her experience of having an autistic sibling - I know that quite a bit of the discussion on AIBU was focused on that. It's difficult, because obviously the experiences of everyone within a family are valid and important, but it is so often the case that autistic people's difficulties are measured against the impact they have on the NT individuals around them. There is so much focus on the NT making reasonable adjustments for autistic individuals, but it is never really acknowledged that autistic people are almost constantly trying to adjust themselves to fit into the NT world.

I had to go and read the AIBU board after reading your post as I was curious what was said there about it. I'm not diagnosed with anything but I found myself very instinctively feeling sorry for the autistic girl (it did remind me a bit of what I was like as a teenager, though my experience wasn't so bad) rather than her sister, which is probably quite telling. I hadn't really considered the sister's point of view before I read the AIBU thread, which I feel a bit bad about in retrospect! I did think it looked very hard for the parents though.

Some people on the AIBU board thought the advert was specifically about how tough things are for siblings of ND people. I guess it's a sign of how good it is that people relate to it from different angles.