Do you mask in front of your partner or family.

[whatisforteamum]

For years I've needed time alone even an hour in my bedroom with no disturbance.
Now the adult dc have left home I still need time on my own and feel relaxed when dh goes out even for an hour.
Am I masking the rest of the time so this is why I feel relief to be alone.
I strongly suspect I have ADHD and possibly autism.

I love it when everyone goes out. I can do what I want without being hassled. I think I feel relieved to be alone because I know nobody is going to speak to me or bother me, or ask me to do something that I don’t want to do. I struggle with interruptions and when everyone is out I know I won’t be interrupted. Unless someone knocks at the door, which is a whole other kettle of fish (I get super angry and upset if someone knocks).

Hi I need lots of alone time I feel totally consumed by family life.

I don't think I mask Infront of husband in actual fact he is the only one who has ever really seen me. I mask for everyone else.

I'm in my forties now and have struggled with friendships my whole life but kept masking and trying to make new ones. I find it hard now to behave in certain ways so have given up trying and while I can be lonely I feel a really big sense of relief to not have to play a part of that makes any sense x

Nowwhat123 I'm like that.Although I am quiet an extrovert in comfortable situations I get times where I cannot wait to get home and be alone.When dc came to visit boxing day I couldn't wait to see them as they live quite a bit away.I was relieved when they went home.I always get depressed in winter though.
I do not encourage people to come to our home.It is my safe space.