What questions do they ask your parents? Re: referral

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I'm thinking about going for a private referral. This board has been very helpful. Both of my parents are still alive and we have a good relationship. However they seem to believe that autism has been invented to excuse bad behaviour in children! I was a very well behaved child at school mainly because I was terrified of getting in trouble. I would have meltdowns at home though and would be sent to my bedroom to calm down.

I wonder if anyone can point me in the direction of some sample questions so that I can decide whether to involve them or not?
Thanks.

My mum wasn't involved at all, and my dad's been dead for years. It was all done from me.

My parents were not involved in my private assessment, I really didn't want them to be, due to past issues.
My Dh had a separate appointment to me and completed an ADI-R interview. He wasn't able to answer all questions as some are regarding childhood traits. But his answers, my high ADOS score and all the observations the assessment team made. Meant that they were able give me a diagnosis.
They were wary initially about not involving someone from my childhood. But at my feedback appointment the psychologist said she felt that it was a detailed and thorough assessment without it.

Thanks both. I don't know if I would ask them to be involved- I would be quite interested in knowing whether they thought I was an odd child though!
Just wondering if anyone's parents have been involved and what they were asked.

The psychologist I spoke to said it’s not uncommon for there to be either no one from childhood available or for there to be no relationship with those people. Or, as in your case, OP, parents who are a bit ‘nothing to see here’. I am sure astute questioning would dig past reluctance to acknowledge traits indicative of autism, but my point is that you can certainly get assessed without having someone to comment on your childhood - especially if you have good recall for your childhood.

If my parents had been involved they would have completed the ADI-R interview that Dh did.

I told the assessor that it wouldn't be useful talking to my parents at all, and they accepted that and moved on, no bother.

My parents were not involved in my assessment(s). They were abusive to me during childhood and I'd been NC for years when I was assessed.

Thank you so much for the further replies. I am obviously overthinking this!!

My husband did have his Mum questioned, but it was ultimately useless and he had the full assessment anyway!

I overthink pretty much everything, including every interaction I have, it's exhausting!