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Chat with the teacher

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roorooA · 27/01/2023 17:52

I feel I don't know what I want from this post - so I am sorry.

I have had concerns about my son for quite a while. He is 5 and started school this year.

Previously to his starting to school, I thought he struggled to make eye contact and didn't really make any friends at nursery (but rather floated around happy on his own). At home he can't play on his own at all and wants guided play. He is a creature of habit, stickler for the rules (for everyone else) and doesn't like to deviate from these. He is super active and never stops, struggles to concentrate, bounces around constantly, can't sit still and fidgets. He had a speech delay and we hired a speech therapist for a year but is now in 'normal' guidelines.

At his first parents evening his class teacher suggested she had some of the same concerns as me and has since suggested she wants to have a further chat with me and talk about things she has noticed but not until next Friday! I am left wondering what she will say and feeling really anxious.

I know a diagnosis doesn't change him or anything but it is making me desperately anxious and upset. Any I being silly? Feel like I need a cuddle and for someone to reassure me everything will be okay.

I should add I am 6 months pregnant so hormonal!

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roorooA · 27/01/2023 18:15

I think I have lost in the wrong section, will try and move it.

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BoardLikeAMirror · 27/01/2023 20:42

Many here have ND children as well as being ND themselves, but you might get more traffic in one of the topics aimed specifically at parents.

As you have said, a diagnosis would not change anything about the son you know and love, but if he is diagnosed with a neurodivergence it will mean he can get any extra support he needs to be comfortable and thrive educationally. I wish I had been diagnosed when I was a child; it's great that parents and teachers are so much more aware these days.

I do hope your chat with the teacher goes well. Flowers

BlackeyedSusan · 04/02/2023 00:45

roorooA · 27/01/2023 17:52

I feel I don't know what I want from this post - so I am sorry.

I have had concerns about my son for quite a while. He is 5 and started school this year.

Previously to his starting to school, I thought he struggled to make eye contact and didn't really make any friends at nursery (but rather floated around happy on his own). At home he can't play on his own at all and wants guided play. He is a creature of habit, stickler for the rules (for everyone else) and doesn't like to deviate from these. He is super active and never stops, struggles to concentrate, bounces around constantly, can't sit still and fidgets. He had a speech delay and we hired a speech therapist for a year but is now in 'normal' guidelines.

At his first parents evening his class teacher suggested she had some of the same concerns as me and has since suggested she wants to have a further chat with me and talk about things she has noticed but not until next Friday! I am left wondering what she will say and feeling really anxious.

I know a diagnosis doesn't change him or anything but it is making me desperately anxious and upset. Any I being silly? Feel like I need a cuddle and for someone to reassure me everything will be okay.

I should add I am 6 months pregnant so hormonal!

How did it go?

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roorooA · 04/02/2023 07:01

@BlackeyedSusan thank you so much for checking in!

It went really well and the teacher was so very gentle and reassuring. In hindsight I think I was really worried the school might tell me something I didn't know or see in my son. Which had me worried that I was not doing right by him, or giving him a safe space at home.

He has been referred to cahms but that will obviously take a while. I am pleased he will be supported by the SENDCo more too.

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