It's a good job not everyone is like you

[AutisticLegoLover]

Said today by my mum when I said I don't like people except for a select few. I've stopped masking when it comes to socialising and just don't do it. She thinks that weird and sad. I think it's great!

Nasty. Sorry, but that's not a nice thing

I wish everyone was like you (and me).

Take no notice of your mum.

I know she doesn't mean it in a horrible way but still.
At one time I might have wished to be 'normal' but it's probably overrated. I think she just feels I'm missing out but I've made peace with who I am and I'm ok, you know? Sometimes, especially at this time of year, I wish for big family get togethers and maybe a party or meal out like you see in films or tv programmes. The reality of that though would be huge anxiety and me upsetting people by saying something or my face saying something or me not wanting to eat something or whatever, and I'd be exhausted and distressed by it so fuck that. Plus, my family and I are mainly NC. My dc and my mum are my family. And our godparents too, they are lovely. That's enough for me but sometimes, just sometimes I wonder what it might be like to be NT and do 'normal' things and not be badly affected by it.

The thing is that it is a good thing that there are different types of people. You’ve only to imagine a tribe struggling to survive all the threats and vagaries of primitive living to see that we are all very important. But these days the extrovert NTs are having their moment and don’t see that it’s also a very good thing that everyone isn’t like them.

It’s great that you’ve been able to break free of the conditioning and accept yourself.

Was she just joking? In a 'the world probably wouldn't work too well if people just didn't like each other' way?

She might not 'mean' to be horrible, but her comment was horrible.

Masking is exhausting, so good for you for dropping the mask and having the courage to be authentic and say no to things that you don't want to do i.e. socialising.

Crikey, OP, what is ‘good’ about the NT way of being superficially chummy to lots of people then destroying them verbally behind their backs to other people? You are sincere, don’t feign liking someone if you don’t and you are selective with your friendships - in my book, that’s called having healthy boundaries.

My dm always tried to get me to make friends.
I'm in my 50s and she has only just stopped.I worked v long hours so no idea when she thought I would do this.
Also it causes me anxiety so I don't see the point.