Dealing with being ignored

[chocolatebrownhair]

So I have ADHD, only really diagnosed 2 years ago but had suspected for a long time that I'm neurodiverse. I have always been hyper sensitive and one of my triggers is being ignored. It sounds trivial and petty to anyone I mention it to because they just say we are all busy and have lives etc, and i totally understand that but it just triggers something in me and makes me feel like utter crap

I have a long term friend I've known for many years and I have noticed a pattern of her ignoring my messages. She is someone I have been there for and supported a lot and I will do that for anyone I'm close to, but I can't help but feel taken advantage of lately. There are times my messages are just left on read for hours, sometimes days at a time even though I can see that she is clearly online. In the same breath if I take longer than a day to respond to a message, she starts messaging or calling in desperation. I can kinda see that the whole friendship is very much one sided, but I know this person for such a long time that I feel I wouldn't even know how to cut things off and fear hurting this person, even though she clearly thinks nothing of my feelings.

Anyone been through this or have any suggestions?

Sounds like RSD. I'm still trying to get my head around it all so I sent a link instead (if you don't want to click on it it's from How to ADHD "how to deal with rejection sensitivity disorder"

Yes I feel this.

I very painfully had to let one of my friends go because of this. I just stopped contacting her and she never contacted me again. It's a year on now.

I still do suffer with RSD in many other areas of my life!

But it's much easier to add things to your life than take them away. So how about increasing your opportunities to make new connections to make more friends. I know this is more of a long term thing as it takes time to make friends but it might still be worth it.