Do you often go and do something different to what you've agreed?

[autumn111]

DH was the first to pick up on this. I think I've annoyed a lot of people over the years as a result of it.

We agree a course of action, sometimes I've even said I'm going to go and do xyz. Then for whatever reasons in my head I decide I'm going to do something different instead, sometimes something that is the opposite of what I've agreed with someone.

I don't know how I've done this for so long. DH knows now that I often do this without even realising but I'm trying to become more self aware. Not least because it'd drive me nuts if someone didn't do what we'd just spent a while talking about.

I think having a poor short term memory doesn't help. Sometimes I have genuinely forgotten what I've agreed, other times I think on impulse I decide something else is better.

Anyone else?

It depends what it is and how important it is that I do 'the thing' we agreed I would do. If I am for eg saying 'Oh I'm going to go to town and post that parcel that needs returning' but there's still 2 weeks left before the deadline, then there's a 90% chance I'll actually not go to town, or if I do, that I won't post the parcel because it's not a priority. I have a long running joke with my DH that I am consistent in being inconsistent... If it's an essential thing then chances are I will do it that day but there's still maybe a 20% chance that I will forget regardless of how important it is.

I do this and my husband complains. We interpret it as part of my ADHD.