Why do neurotypical people do this?

[wheresmymojo]

I don't know if it's my ADHD or if I just work in a weird culture right now but...

Why the actual fuck do people ask for your honest, open opinions if they don't want your honest, open opinions?

Twice I've now got into 'trouble' at work because I've specifically been asked for my honest opinions and I've given them.

Then been told I shouldn't have.

It makes NO FREAKING sense.

Has anyone actually got to the point of needing to circulate something to colleagues and managers that they need to be careful when asking me questions to decide first whether they actually want the answer or not?

I'm not being rude, personal or mean in my answers by the way.

Fuck knows. I think it ranges between ‘give me honest opinions but break it to me gently and make sure you praise me equally’ and ‘I only want honest opinions if they’re positive, if not stay quiet/ lie.
I’m good with body language so face to face I do ok, and can tailor my response as necessary. Otherwise I stick to the rule of sandwiching a negative between two positives.
It’s so much easier with my nd colleague where we mean what we say and can just get straight to the point without thinking about what the other really meant or hurty feelings.
Tbf I don’t think it’s all or even a majority of nds, just enough to make it a minefield!

Yes, this often happens to me at work. It's annoying. I don't understand it.

Someone needs to write a dictionary to explain what NTs mean vs what they actually say.

I had this happen to me today. Along the lines of...do you like my outfit. I said yes. Then was asked if I really like it and I said yes but I prefer you in this other outfit. That was the wrong answer!

Because they never say what they mean, never ask what they actually want to know and then get pissed when you don't answer exactly what they wanted to hear, but didn't ask for!!

And they have the nerve to say WE have communication issues 😂

Seriously though, I am sorry you have got into trouble over it, the same happened to me whilst working and I even hauled myself off to my manager once to say I said something I was sure was going to come back to her!

They don't mean what they say and don't say what they mean. And as Pookah said they have a bloody cheek to tell us we have a communication deficiency

(Mind you I haven't had coffee yet so my grammar has buggered right off)