Do people who have neuro diverse conditions struggle with stress more than neuro typical people?

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I have suspected for a while that I may have inattentive ADHD or am on the autistic spectrum. I score highly with online questionnaires but as yet can not pluck up the courage to ask my GP because I am 49 and worry they will think I’m jumping on a social media band wagon but I truly have never felt ‘normal’ since a small child and I do in fact just suffer from the anxiety they always say I have (although to me it feels much more).
I have had many issues over the years (from the age of around 4/5) but one thing that I really struggle with is stressful situations.
I am at my most content and at ease when in a very quiet, calm environment with very little going on in my life, with very little to have to think about.
I find crowds, overly confident and chatty people, loud noises, stressful/busy jobs, loud traffic etc very unsettling and triggers for my stress.
Looking back on my life I notice that during times of immense stress I literally fall to pieces (emotionally, mentally and physically) and find it hard to come back from that. The way my mind functions and my way of living is often chaotic which I feels exacerbates any stress going on in my life.
I have been in a very stressful situation for the last few years and am really struggling to cope even though I mask (as I have most my life) and people think I am ok.
I know we all have to experience stressful situations throughout our lives but those I know who are neuro typical (including my dh) seem to handle stress in a different and far controlled way than I can ever imagine doing.
Is it typical for neuro diverse people to struggle more often with stressful situations?

There is a link with neurodiversity and emotional regulation.

Regarding the GP though, what do you have to lose by asking them for a referral? They may well try and say you have anxiety or another mental health condition but you are well within your rights to ask for that referral, especially if you have experienced this since before the age of 12.

I get it is hard when you feel judged (I felt it going to the GP, and don't tell anyone in real life I have ADHD for the same reasons you stated) but the mental health teams are really nice and supportive. The help available I have now received has been life changing! I would love to say I'm beyond caring what others think but unfortunately people who don't understand will judge, you won't change that.

I could have written this exact post OP. To the letter. No advice I'm afraid but following with interest.

I always thought I couldn't possibly have Autism because I got upset and cried so easily. The slightest thing, especially stress, would set me off. I thought Autistic people didn't cry!! I am much better now that I take an antidepressant though. Let us know if you do see your GP (I can't pluck up the courage to ask mine for a diagnosis/referral.) I would be interested in the outcome. Good luck.