Feel really hurt

[PhatPaws]

I've been feeling unsatisfied in my social life for a while now. So I've been really trying to make more connections, by seeing current friends more, going to classes and just being open to meeting people in general.

A few nights ago I arranged a meal out with two of my friends, they know eachother from before but mainly through me. The night was OK, but one of my friends has said that they don't want to hang out with us as a 3 again.

I feel so hurt by this. It hurts my chest. Probs have RSD. I know they haven't said they have a problem with me or my other friend just that the dynamic wasn't good. I can't help but replay the whole night in my head an view it all in a critical light....basically think that everything that I said and did was rong. I know I'm overreacting but I can't stop it. I'm not incontrol.

I know I'll get through this feeling but until it does I just feel so rejected and dysregulated.

Any support appreciated.

Ouch. It could be they don't get on with the other one. Or they want to spend more time with you but being ND means we have no bloody idea what we have or haven't done nor what it all means.

Yeah and rationally I know it's OK. But my emotions tell me that I'm a failure.

I have always hated groups, much preferring 1:1. So a group of 3 (to me) would feel odd and rather uncomfortable anyway. I doubt you’ve done anything wrong and like a previous poster has said it could be about the other one, not you at all.

With a new set-up it might work so much better so everyone’s happy.

That sounds to me like they don't like each other rather than you.
1 on 1 is much better anyway OP.

Yeah I've actually just re read the messages and yes I think they have a probs with my friend. It's so annoying that my rejection just gets triggered so much. I had an unesesary day of feeling so hurt and rejected by it and there was literally no rejection