Approaching GP regarding adhd/autism diagnosis

[Maybepossibly22]

Hi all, so glad to have found this board - feel like I have found my people.

I have struggled my way through life and now, at the age of 33, things are coming to a head. I can’t sustain friendships, I can’t hold down a job longer than a year, my house is a tip, I’m making stupid mistakes all the time at work, can’t hold a normal conversation as I zone out, the list goes on.

I highly suspect I have adhd, the symptoms of which have been put down to anxiety for as long as I can remember. I’d like to go to the GP to discuss but I’m worried about being thought of as a fraud or wasting time, but I really need help.

What do I say? How do I approach this? Can I have a step by step guide as my brain just isn’t able to get to the “doing” part.

Thank you

The first thing I did was gather 'evidence'. So, printouts of lists of ASD/ADHD traits where I highlighted the ones I related to, printouts of online questionnaires that suggested I might have ASD/ADHD, and I made lists of any memories from childhood, teens, and adulthood that I thought might help form a bigger picture

Then I brought it all to my GP and said I thought I was Autistic/had ADHD and would like to be referred for an assessment, and then handed them all the info and said this was why. I didn't have any problem persuading them to refer me for either, because I was handing them enough info to back up their referral

I have seen it mentioned since Covid that there's a bit more relunctance to refer now due to the waiting lists being so long, so I would also have a bit written down about why you want referred now and how a diagnosis would be beneficial to you