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Help! Social event with estranged family members in an hour!

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AlternativelyWired · 10/07/2022 13:47

I want to cancel but it's my mum's birthday and I wouldn't but the stress is getting to me and I want to hide and/or cry. Dd is asking for tips on how to avoid being awkward when people speak up her. Like I'd know 🤣 I'm going to take my spinner toy and breathe. Any other tips?

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BlackeyedSusan · 10/07/2022 19:29

Hope it went well.

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ofwarren · 10/07/2022 19:58

Sorry I missed this post!
How did it go?
Sounds extremely stressful

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AlternativelyWired · 11/07/2022 08:23

Apparently I caused a scene by staying quiet in the garden with my dc instead of going inside to a room filled with 10 people. I should have gone in and been sociable. They could have come out and said hello though and didn't.

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ofwarren · 11/07/2022 12:24

AlternativelyWired · 11/07/2022 08:23

Apparently I caused a scene by staying quiet in the garden with my dc instead of going inside to a room filled with 10 people. I should have gone in and been sociable. They could have come out and said hello though and didn't.

Caused a scene? You can't cause a scene by doing nothing at all. I'd have done the same as you.

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Tilly10too · 11/07/2022 15:03

Well done for going, and well done for staying there. I think you did brilliantly for turning up and supporting your child. Sadly some people cannot imagine a bump on the head unless you hit them with a frying pan, so asking some neurotypicals to appreciate that social things can be a bloody nightmare for those with differences is just never going to happen. Who told you you caused a scene?

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Clarice99 · 13/07/2022 13:36

Caused a scene? WTF! Who said that to you? Whoever made the above comment sounds spiteful and unsupportive.

Are the people who were at this event aware of the challenges you're up against?

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AlternativelyWired · 17/07/2022 19:51

My delightful teenager. Mist of my family don't like me because I'm "different" Hmm

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Clarice99 · 19/07/2022 15:49

AlternativelyWired · 17/07/2022 19:51

My delightful teenager. Mist of my family don't like me because I'm "different" Hmm

I'm sure you've posted about your challenging teen daughter before (?). Hopefully it won't be too long before she grows up.

The other family members - are they your immediate family i.e. children and partner, or other relatives? If the latter, have you considered cutting down on contact?

Just because you're (we're) different, doesn't mean we are unlikeable/open to be abused/fair game for nastiness etc.

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