Help! Social event with estranged family members in an hour!

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I want to cancel but it's my mum's birthday and I wouldn't but the stress is getting to me and I want to hide and/or cry. Dd is asking for tips on how to avoid being awkward when people speak up her. Like I'd know 🤣 I'm going to take my spinner toy and breathe. Any other tips?

Hope it went well.

Sorry I missed this post!
How did it go?
Sounds extremely stressful

Apparently I caused a scene by staying quiet in the garden with my dc instead of going inside to a room filled with 10 people. I should have gone in and been sociable. They could have come out and said hello though and didn't.

Caused a scene? You can't cause a scene by doing nothing at all. I'd have done the same as you.

Well done for going, and well done for staying there. I think you did brilliantly for turning up and supporting your child. Sadly some people cannot imagine a bump on the head unless you hit them with a frying pan, so asking some neurotypicals to appreciate that social things can be a bloody nightmare for those with differences is just never going to happen. Who told you you caused a scene?

Caused a scene? WTF! Who said that to you? Whoever made the above comment sounds spiteful and unsupportive.

Are the people who were at this event aware of the challenges you're up against?

My delightful teenager. Mist of my family don't like me because I'm "different"

I'm sure you've posted about your challenging teen daughter before (?). Hopefully it won't be too long before she grows up.

The other family members - are they your immediate family i.e. children and partner, or other relatives? If the latter, have you considered cutting down on contact?

Just because you're (we're) different, doesn't mean we are unlikeable/open to be abused/fair game for nastiness etc.