ADHD adult male - any way I can help him?

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One of DHs old friends is staying with us after marital breakdown. I've met him casually over the years. Now he's here I am beginning to suspect he may have ADHD. No impulse control, restless, only able to complete tasks if he's very motivated by them/constant prompting, has left undone crucial things in his life that are now having big consequences that were foreseeable, no ability to safety net himself...

And he is sad, and lost, and kicking himself for what he has/hasn't done, and full of self loathing... and then goes off on the same road again.

Is there anything I can do to help him focus, manage, stop the impulses? I have no close personal experience with ADHD.

You are not his support human. It's up to him to get himself help. It's nice that you care but it's not your job to fix him. You could point him in the direction of his GP for a referral but it's probably not his priority considering the recent relationship break down.

Thank you for caring but there is not really much you can do personally to be honest.
Mentioning that he may have ADHD could possibly really upset him. He needs to come to that realisation himself.
At most, you could possibly drop it in conversation and talk about other people you know with adhd and see if the penny drops, but I really wouldn't suggest it to him.

Advise he starts the keto diet or the carnivore diet. It may change his life.
There is a FB group called Keto for Neuro - I have first hand experience that it works.

This.

There is no evidence that diet affects ADHD.

Are you advocating that eating meat 'cures' autistic and people with ADHD?

No intention of "saving" him or "changing" him - I was just wondering if there are any angles or approaches that might chime better with him on a day to day basis.

FWIW, DS is autistic as is one of my female best friends, so I do have a little experience of neurodiversity and know there are better and worse ways of approaching things - that's all I was looking for.

Push him towards a diagnosis and help him understand his own behaviours. No one outside can organise a person with adhd, it goes nowhere.

No, I'm saying there is a lot of evidence that eating plants is not helping.

The theory is that these issues are caused by low level inflammation in the brain. Plant antinutrients can be linked in some cases to this inflammation.

There's masses of cases that have been helped with cutting out plant antinutrients, lectins, catechins, saponins etc., reducing inflammation generally and patients getting better as a result.

If you are interested, it's worth researching. I have cut my arthritic pain by 80% by removing plant material from my diet.

Quackery

@ErniesGhostlyGoldTops have you got any links for peer reviewed articles about this please?

I'm veggie. A diet low in fruit, vegetables and fibre is indicated in cancer and heart disease along with obesity. Neurodiversity is genetically influenced. I don't think my diet has influenced what is congenital. I doubt any one else's has either but I'll happily read any peer reviews articles on the subject.

@ErniesGhostlyGoldTops having reread your post please could you tell me what your diet looks like day today day?

Hi, Off the top of my head no but seriously consider googling. People with RA, fibro, PCOS and a host of other serious issues have been healed with the carnivore diet. It's not so much the meat as the fact that it eliminates the veggies with their lectins and other anti nutrients. Sally K Norton on Youtube explains about how oxalates destroy tissue. There is a website called meatheals. There's masses of information on it. I have the use of my hands back after starting the carnivore 30 day challenge and then realising what a miracle it can be for some people that don't manage antinutrients well.

Plants have no teeth and claws so they can't run away when being eaten. Instead they produce chemicals and antinutrients to stop them being eaten. We have lost the ability to detect these and chow down. Not all people are susceptible and I'm sure this is genetic. Like I said, Sally K Norton is at the extreme end of a spectrum but it's well worth investigating all of this. It was a shocking eye opener for me but I'm so glad I researched and researched until I had these answers.

Dr. Gundry has written books about this. some of his claims are a bit ,,,wide of the mark I suspect but I think the basic premise is right.

Yeah, it's a load of unproven bollocks.