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Need for appreciation
HMSSophia · 09/06/2022 09:51
I'm diagnosed adhd late 50s. Most of my life I've felt like I need more appreciation and acknowledgment than I have got. Like a yearning for love. The lack of it can trigger anger and attack in me which then makes me ashamed and sorry, thus putting myself in the way to be even less appreciated
Does this sound like adhd to anyone else or am I just a needy bastard?
Clarice99 · 09/06/2022 12:40
I have autism and ADHD (both diagnosed). I'm not 'needy' nor do I need or fish for compliments.
I've haven't heard of the above being ND traits (not saying they're not, just that I haven't heard of it nor does it apply to me). Perhaps it's just a personality thing rather than an ND thing?
Clarice99 · 09/06/2022 15:21
HMSSophia · 09/06/2022 13:54
Yes I am trying to determine if it's personality or a "trait". Sounds like it's just me being needy!
Based on the posts from @calmlakes it might not be 'you'. Could be RSD?
Thanks for the info @calmlakes I was shocked at the 99% figure!
Trivester · 09/06/2022 18:32
Sorry but my head is melted today, so this will be vague, but I’ve definitely come across this concept in relation to adhd, that we pleasure seek because of the lack of dopamine/serotonin and seeking praise/approval is a part of that.
If I can remember where I’ve heard that I’ll come back to the thread.
HMSSophia · 10/06/2022 18:39
So does praise and appreciation provide dopamine, @Trivester ? That would make sense. I can become full of anger instantaneously if I feel unappreciated- which is a shit look when you're 58 and not 5. Therapy has helped somewhat but it's still there unfortunately.
Give way to someone who doesn't signal "cheers mate" hand up, I'm fuming.
Do a favour with genuine kindness for a neighbour, ie NOT consciously for praise, but they don't show appreciation and I want to move house.
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