Anyone else feel you are treated badly for no reason?

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I was inspired to write this thread based on a thread yesterday, I could relate so much to so many of the posters on there and their experiences being treated badly by others.
I have noticed and it's not me imagining things or being paranoid that I have a history of just attracting abusive and nasty people into my life. I have never been able to understand it because I trear people with respect, don't think I'm rude and am empathic (actually to a fault sometimes) but yet I've been treated like shit, bullied and rejected for my whole life, friends, family, partners, even medical people really. Just this morning I left a medical appointment in tears because the doctor sarcastically told me that I'm "complicated " and showing absolutely zero patience or empathy.

I have become very agrophobia due to trauma and this constant bullying and at times have even felt like giving up if this Is what the rest of my life is going to be like. Sometimes I don't even know what keeps me strong and focused because I feel the opposite.

Anyway sorry for this depressing rant. I thought this is the one place people would understand. Does anyone else experience this aswell and how do you cope with it?

Sorry I forgot to add that I have ADHD only diagnosed in my 30's

Yes, I am a magnet for people who treat me badly - I have been in abusive relationships of various kinds as well as seeming to rub people up the wrong way in casual interactions. I can immediately tell when someone just isn't going to understand or take me seriously. It happens often with HCPs (I know they are over-stretched and some of them are trying their best). Nowadays I try not to engage as it's simpler.

Me too. I used to wonder why I was so unlikeable. I start off well. I mask well but as time goes on I struggle more and I have chronic pain and was often off sick. I think now I burn out. There's only so far I can maintain normal then everything becomes too much. I'm respectful, kind, friendly, helpful but yet I'm always on the fringes of every group, every event, every discussion. If I say things I'm ignored, I've tried so hard to fit in. Not helped by being the only single parent in my ds's year group so they think I'm odd for being happily single, not doing a regular job, not having grandparents doing childcare, not doing lunch and nights out and all the other stuff that's the norm for most. People chat to me, they are friendly, but they don't want to include me in anything like friendship. My family were the same. Only my mum and dc like me. I've accepted it now. Mumsnet is as sociable as I get 😁

I can't get away with talking to people now so I just avoid. I've had some shocking treatment from others in the past so I don't trust anyone now. I have a particular problem with HCPs.

I am treated badly. But not for no reason. It’s because I’m weird and autistic, and people find that disconcerting and unpleasant. And it’s a flashing beacon for abusers that this is someone who’s easy to abuse.

This is pretty much the story of my life, I relate so well