Does anyone else experience this as one of their ADHD traits? How do you cope with it? I’ve not long been on Concerta and this doesn’t seem to be getting better. The theory form my psych is treat the ADHD and the emotional dysregulation will get better. What if it doesn’t? I’m wondering if I’m going to end up with a diagnosis of BPD as well.
Tonight I got cross with my husband about bedtime as he didn’t seem to be listening to me about what helped I needed with the children then accused me of being bossy or something along those lines. I got angry and ended up taking it out on the children. I shouted and told them they had to go to bed and that was that. Everyone was sad. I’ve been crying most the night. My response was completely out of proportion to what happened. I don’t want to be like this. I went always angry. I used to be kind. I feel like
ik letting down my children.
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AlistairCamel · 11/05/2022 21:39
BlackeyedSusan · 12/05/2022 11:30
Are you sure it's not a DH problem?
WeirdManFromRummikub · 12/05/2022 12:03
OP has said her own response was out of proportion, not her DH's.
It doesn't matter if your emotional dysregulation is 'part' of your ADHD or part of undiagnosed Borderline. You can still try and sort it out. TBH it doesn't sound extreme.... but if you read up around therapy for ED/BPD, Dialectical Behaviour Therapy is always recommended. I'm not saying you need it, or you'd be able to get it. Just read around the methods of examining, labelling and reflecting on your feelings/ emotions as a key to understanding what's going on, and a very first step in trying to manage them.
Your insight that your reaction was out of proportion is a good starting point. In the heat of the moment it can be impossible to control, but to reflect afterwards and understand what is going on can be helpful.
(DS (20) is on waiting list for Personality Disorder clinic and ADHD screening, amongst other things....)
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