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Why do you cry?

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FairiesAngels · 07/05/2022 03:15

I'm pre diagnosis but fairly sure I'm textbook autistic.

I wondered if anyone shared this issue.

I cry a lot, especially in unexpected situations. I'm physically unable to control it no matter how much i try.

I can cry when I'm sad, happy, overwhelmed, trying to express gratitude, annoyed, frustrated, freaking out. It's endless.

I'm asking because today my husband assumed I was feeling one emotion because of the tears streaming down my face, but in fact it was quite a different emotion.

A 💡 went off above my head, as to how confusing this could be when you're not inside my head. 🤔 It just made me extremely conscious of how emotional I can be, and how it can portray the wrong emotion.

I tend to avoid situations where I know I'll start to cry.

It happened yesterday where I was trying to express my gratitude to someone who had been incredibly kind and helpful to me, way above their obligation. I just feel things so deeply. (wheres that embarrassed smiley)

I just wondered if anyone else shared this. It's gotten worse over the years, my mask is slipping. I used to be able to stop it.

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ZenKaleidoscope · 07/05/2022 07:01

I can relate.

I cry when tired, hurt, angry, touched by a song, embarrassed, can't get my words out, feeling over whelmed. It's defo not just sadness.

When I take my little one to baby sensory it always makes me cry and I can't quite put my finger on why. I generally don't have sensory issues.


EdgeOfSeventeenAndThreeQuarter · 07/05/2022 07:06

I don’t. Autism has made my tear ducts surgically seal themselves up.

or if a dog dies in a sad film obviously. 😭


transformandriseup · 07/05/2022 07:16

I had this up until my mid 20's, I found working tough anyway but I would find myself crying whenever I was even slightly overwhelmed. I wasn't doing it for attention, the tears wound just out.


duvetdayforeveryone · 07/05/2022 08:13

Frustration and anger.

If I start crying when talking to someone, it is not because I am sad it is because I want to murder them.


BarrowInFurnessRailwayStation · 07/05/2022 19:17

I very rarely cry. Sometimes I get emotional and my eyes get teary, but not proper crying. I have to be in extremis before I proper cry.


Scautish · 07/05/2022 21:41

EdgeOfSeventeenAndThreeQuarter · 07/05/2022 07:06

I don’t. Autism has made my tear ducts surgically seal themselves up.

or if a dog dies in a sad film obviously. 😭

Your tear ducts are where the eyes drain away tears, they are not where tears come from.


EdgeOfSeventeenAndThreeQuarter · 08/05/2022 07:37

and they say us ND can’t make a joke!


BertieBotts · 08/05/2022 07:43

I feel like I used to be incredibly quick to cry when I was in a constant state of confusion and panic because I couldn't understand why I was behaving like I was. Since diagnosis (ADHD) I just don't cry as much. It's weird.

Anyway I learned to tell DH "just ignore the fact I'm crying because I do want to discuss this" because otherwise/in previous relationships I'd tended to avoid discussions that would make me cry, because my boyfriend would either get really sympathetic and we'd move onto how to calm me down, or he'd get really angry and say I was manipulating him so I could never have a discussion and it really fucked me off!


splendidsue · 08/05/2022 07:49

With adhd I cry as an over emotional response. Something that means a lot to me can make me cry. I also cry for stress release


ofwarren · 08/05/2022 16:20

Totally understand
I can control it more as an adult but as a child I wouldn't even watch funny things on TV because otherwise I would end up crying, not with laughter, proper crying.
I well up at the usual sad things now but also at certain music (not sad lyrics, it's the sounds themselves) if I'm angry or frustrated and also if I'm overwhelmed by sound. The worst sound is a low flying military plane, I'm literally frozen with hands over my ears and will cry if it's not over quickly.


LilyRed · 09/05/2022 22:31

@duvetdayforeveryone exactly what I want to say, frustration and anger: has always been thus with deep sorrow in parts


AfterSchoolWorry · 09/05/2022 22:34

I rarely cry at all.


BrylcreamBeret · 09/05/2022 22:50

I cry when I'm angry because punching is bad. I'm not taking the piss, I don't know how else to put it.

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