Has anyone else given up on the idea of finding supportive friendships?

[bucksfizzrock]

For me it's something that I desperately want, but it feels sometimes almost akin to the same chances of winning the lottery. With every friendship I have ever had, I'm the one doing all the work and after a while I jusr get discarded almost like I have served my purpose. My birthday was last week and I think it really brought home to me how 2 people in my life I thought were friends just couldn't care less, they didnt even acknowledge my birthday though I always think of theirs and I don't think of peoples birthdays just for them to remember mine, but it would be nice to have the same reciprocity sometimes

I hear all the time how important friendships are and it's drilled into all of us constantly how we are "social animal's " but it's just hard when it's all one sided and there are some days when I just feel like giving up and think I'll never meet anyone that actually cares

I gave up on friendship a few years ago then unexpectedly made a friend who's daughter was going to the same online school as ds2. Her and her dh are friends with me and dh. I'm always worried about messing it up though 🤦‍♀️ her and her dh are ND so I think that helps.

You never know what's round the corner. I do find it's much easier being friends with a fellow ND person. I find there's more honesty and less competition that the NTs seem to constantly indulge in.

My friends are books. People are too tricky. I have no best friend. People I'm friendly with and chat to but no one I'd choose to go out with socially. A take away coffee on the return school run but that's it. I find it mentally exhausting. I've started standing on my own in the playground now instead of trying to join a group of other mums. I have so little in common with them. I never go on nights out and have the ability to say I can't make it now rather than try to be normal, say yes, then spend the time up wondering how to get out of it. The groups of mums who frequently socialise and run together, lunch together or shop together or always have other kids over are a mystery to me.

I don't think I can give up

I used to have really good friends. I'm still trying to work out what I did wrong.

I really miss having friends. I do still have some, but no one who wants even a daily text chat.

That's really sad 😥

Perhaps they're just busy with stuff.

Barrow yes, my best friend is away for work, has a lot on in personal life. I just miss being someone's priority. Others have vanished and it is me, I'm working on stuff. I read on here that it's quite common to reject someone if they've given you a lot of help with stuff. I was the person who was always ready to help but like OP, I'm not sure that was a good thing.

OP I see a lot of posts like this so maybe we'll make new friends again.