Would you cancel this hair appointment?

[ENoeuf]

I don’t know if anyone else will get this. I have ‘difficult’ hair and recently found a hairdresser I liked, cut it nicely and then did a patch treat as I was thinking about colour. Bear in mind the hairdressers is a horrible experience always - the sensory stuff and small talk etc.
so I booked a consultation with her but when I arrived they door was shut and I had to use the other one - all the staff were sat in training and they didn’t know I had an appointment. Then they sent someone else to me and I had to say it was the other person. There was a bit of discussion at the till and the first person I’d booked came over. She was nice but then said anyone could do it and booked me with someone else. So I feel a bit weird about it all - like did she not want to do my hair? I really want to cancel but I know this will fit the pattern of just leaving etc when things go wrong.

I am NT but I’d cancel. I have trouble finding a hairdresser who cuts my hair the way I’d like it and stick to a stylist once I’ve found them.

This place doesn’t sound very organised but it would be a very usual thing for you to do, to say that you would like an appointment with that person and rearrange for when they are available.

Hello, no- don’t cancel. Probably just a mistake... these things happen so don’t take it personally.
Dont think too deeply about it, go to your appointment and enjoy your new hair 😊

hello ENoeuf. That sounds like a very uncomfortable situation, and disorganised of them to not know when you were coming. I don’t think you should have to have anyone you don’t want doing your hair. Would you feel comfortable calling the hairdresser and asking the person you liked to call you back, and then stating what you prefer. So: I would like to have you do my hair, can I cancel the appointment when the other person and make it with you specifically. I prefer no small talk if that’s ok, can you make a note, as I find it stressful. Good luck.

This is also a thing - I’m really self conscious about myself and having someone new doing it will mean going through it all again.

If you book with a specific person and they know you want them, not somebody else to do your hair, then yes I would cancel.
If you want to give her another chance you could re-explain /(explain) why keeping with one person (rather than any skilled person) is very important to you and rebook her for another time.

It is possible that the business has a policy of not allowing employees build up client base.
But this looks as if the business had training on did not check to see if clients had booked. If they had they should have phoned you to reschedule.
As it it they prioritised the training above the client, i am guessing she was the trainer?
So unfortunately it looks as if you may need to find a better business

I think it was external training. The trouble is that with all the history of never fitting in, it’s really stressful to feel like maybe it’s happening again, so I know that my radar goes off really quickly.
i did say is everything ok with me being here etc because of the training. I just know it feels a bit ruined now after feeling id found somewhere I could manage. I know it sounds very dramatic.

I can see why this is stressing you out. It would stress me too. I could understand another member of staff booking you in with someone else, but it is a bit odd that she did it herself.

I find the hairdresser experience difficult on so many levels too, and I think I’d actually prioritise feeling comfortable with the person doing it, and being certain about them doing it, over the actual haircut.

I’ve learned to split up my colour and cut because it’s just too long for me, and I can start to shut down, and not be able to talk properly by the end. That’s in a situation where I’ve booked on their quietest day, and always have the same senior stylist.

I don’t think you’re unreasonable to walk away from this, or cancel this appointment and try again in a week or two. Lots of good advice from pps if you’re feeling brave but I just want to express solidarity because I would struggle too.

Thank you, I decided to cancel. I hate having my hair done anyway, since my lovely hairdresser moved away I’ve bounced around a lot trying to find someone who cuts nicely on curls. Think I will give up and go long 💇

Weird. The female hair cut has changed to male which wasn’t there !