Getting kids assessed after own diagnosis

[Orangeglobes]

After a long wait, I recently had my adhd assessment and got a diagnosis.

My kids are young, but over the age where they can be reliably assessed and I have always suspected that they may have certain neurodiverse characteristics, but never pursued a diagnosis as I assumed their teachers and/or my DH would also raise concerns if the kids were having difficulties. Although they have raised various minor things, no mention of adhd or autism was ever mentioned and they do well at school. Something was raised by DH recently as he found out he had dyslexia and the initial assessment suggested one of our kids may also have it and they have been referred.

Since being diagnosed though, and being somewhat reassured that my observations aren't all in my head, I'm starting to rethink. During my assessment I also asked DH to fill out the 'observations from someone who knows you' form and he pretty much dismissed it, filled it out in 2 minutes and answered that he couldn't see any issues for every single question, so I'm not inclined to rely on his observations either!

It seems that most people go for diagnosis after their children are diagnosed. Is it common for it to happen the other way round as well? Kids being diagnosed after their parents have a 'realisation'?

i am waiting on official diagnosis for ADHD, assessment is in the next couple of months, but my therapist has told me it'll just be a box ticking exercise to get me on meds.

Both my son and brother have AuDHD, my brothers version of his ADHD is severe/combined type, whereas my sons Autism is more prominent.
I'm pretty sure my DD is also on the spectrum, so once i've got mine i will be pushing the school to refer her for assessment, which they've so far refused to do as she is doing well at school.. thing is, so did i until after my GCSE's, then it all went to hell in a handcart.

Hope the assessment allows you to get meds that can help.
It sounds really sounds like there's a strong component to it, doesn't it.
Sorry to hear they won't assess your DD yet. With so many people getting diagnosed later in life it seems more important than ever that kids who may need extra support or meds at some point in their lives are diagnosed and given the option at the point they need it instead of having to wait months/years for an assessment.