Getting it off my chest

[Iom92]

Morning all.

I’m currently on the waiting list for an adult assessment for ASD. Both of my children are autistic.

I’m having a wobble.

I was reading another thread earlier (think it was in chat) about things parents do for their adult children. Mine do nothing for me. Tbh I’ve often been given the impression that they wish I hadn’t been born. I have two siblings. One of them I never speak to/have no relationship with. The other I do, but it’s always me instigating contact. It’s the same with friends. If I don’t instigate contact/make plans I don’t see/hear from anybody, ever. It does get me down a lot because I often feel as if these people tolerate me but don’t actually want a relationship with me, and if I let it drop, that would be that.

I have a very loving husband and my family unit (dh and kids) is perfect, but I do enjoy having friends.

I’m just in a bit of a mope this morning. I feel like I’m not on anyone’s radar, outside of my own family unit. Just wanted to get it off my chest I suppose. I always have this as a niggling feeling but it sometimes comes to the fore and upsets me.

Hello, I just wanted to say that I'm in the same situation. My own extended family don't reach out to me ever. They would respond if I text but because I moved away over 10 years ago, none of them really keep in touch.

Friends wise I have none at all. I do find friendships very hard and that most people seem to want more from a friendship than I do.

It's a tough one isn't it.

Hope you are OK x

People can be a big let down and family members can be the worst 😥

Hello, I hear you.

You have the chance to break that cycle of family not being there for eachother. I bet you do nice things for your children and it will mean so much to them.

That's great that you have a loving husband. You are obviously capable of having healthy relationships.

I'm sorry that you are unfulfilled outside of you immediate family. How would you feel about making some new connections?

Do you always feel like this? I ask because I have waves of feeling lonely and in those times I view all my relationships in a different light.

Thank you for your replies.

I don’t always feel like this, but yes, during a low moment it just makes me feel sad and I just wonder is it me!

It’s good to know that it’s not just me that feels this way, but I’m sorry that you all identify with this too.