Feeling incredibly down today

[Turkishdelightchocisace]

There are some days when I just wake up like that and there is no known reason for it but I just feel incredibly sad, never being able to put my finger on the cause of it.

I think what triggered it was some snarky comments from a guy I'm friends with. I was having a good day on Sunday, had made my face up which I don't often do. Me and him know each other a long time. I am not romantically attracted to him at all (I'm actually a lesbian) but he appears to think I'm still going to change my mind. Anyway he said to me 'Just saying my truth but heavy makeup does nothing for me'. I told him I didnt exist just to please him and things turned a bit sour after that.

It's not necessarily that which caused my low mood today but it certainly didn't help. Some days I just find myself unable to cope with very little

Ooo, he's a cheeky beggar isn't he? 😮 I'm sure you look just fine.

Sorry you're feeling down. What sort of stuff might help you feel a bit better?

OP "Some days I just find myself unable to cope with very little"

Yup, I hear that.

a so called friend saying that, really sucks. I'm sorry.

@BarrowInFurnessRailwayStation being creative always helps, also getting lost in a good book. My concentration is a bit crap today though.

@EmmaH2022 thanks for your kind words

OP I can't get into anything either
Maybe there's something in the air today, better day tomorrow hopefully.

Anyway he said to me 'Just saying my truth but heavy makeup does nothing for me'.

I'd have replied - 'oooh, fabulous, my dog repellent make up is working then' followed by 'do fuck off dear'

He doesn't sound like a very nice person. Real friends don't make snide comments to put people down. It's a horrible thing to do.

Personally, I'd be re-evaluating the friendship because with friends like him, who needs enemies.

Be kind to yourself OP. I bet you looked fabulous and he was just being spiteful because you're out of his league - in more ways than one!!

What creative things do you like doing?

@EmmaH2022 hope today is a better day for you too

@Clarice99 you really made me laugh thank you. That's exactly what I should have said to him. I'm giving him a wide birth from now on.

@BarrowInFurnessRailwayStation I love to knit, trying to learn to crochet aswell

It's great that you're going to give him a wide berth @Turkishdelightchocisace

He really doesn't deserve your friendship.

I hope that making a positive decision to 'kick him to the kerb' has put you in a better frame of mind.

If he has the audacity to contact you in future to ask why you're not in touch, I don't recommend my response which would be:

Fuck off you tosser 🤣🤣🤣

I don’t like it when friendships are treated as a sort of downgraded sexual relationship, because imo they are completely different.

For a very long time I valued my friendships more than my relationships, until I met dh who was special enough to be a true friend as well a lover.

Friendship is special, but waiting in the wings, or stringing someone along as a just in case or a last resort etc, is not being friends. It needs another word.

What I thought were genuine friendships with men have all disappointingly turned out to be that other thing. Many people say platonic friendships are possible but I’ve given up on them personally.

I hope you’re feeling better now. I have RSD and that kind of a comment would deflate me for a little while too.