Does anyone ever get treated like they need "fixing"

[TonyBravo]

My DH and I are on the rocks, which is desperately sad but one of the biggest reasons is because he can't let go of this idea that he can "fix" me. Like if he doesn't something in particular (god knows what) I'll turn into a completely different person who will want the same things he does.

I've come across a few people offering solutions to things in my life the see as things that need fixing because they're not "normal" and I'm getting totally fed up of it. Despite my neuro diversity, I'm actually pretty content with who I am as a person.

I've also dealt with this my whole life and particularly in therapy for some reason. Every therapist I spoke to seemed determined to "make" me neurotypical and put me into a box , I've had the same with so called friends and don't think I ever actually met someone who accepted me just as I am. I'm so sorry that you are dealing with this too I wish people could just see us for the great people we are

My husband does the same. "If you do this, then life will be better/easier" etc.
I get tutted at if I can't stand the noise or need a break from the kids. No understanding or empathy whatsoever.

I’ve been doing this to myself for years - I think it comes from growing up in the peak of the self-help culture of the nineties.

I’m very clear now that I need strategies that help my brain interface optimally with the demands of life. But no amount of anything will change how my brain is wired.

I’m very vocal now about pointing out ND to my nearest and dearest and I was chuffed lately when dh told his dps that the world needs people like ds (they were criticising his social skills)

Sometimes I think we don’t recognise that our beliefs and thoughts don’t arise in a vacuum and can in fact be wrong. The you-can-be-anything-if-you-try-hard-enough message is very pervasive but it doesn’t take into account that no amount of flapping my arms will make me fly.