Does ADHD make you look/feel "intense" to other people?

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I have a very fast paced brain - not always do the right thinking though. So it gives multiple side effects:

Anxiety - overthinking too far and too much
Self-conciousness - can't read social cues resulting in all sorts of self-doubt and sensitivity
Talking fast with speech slurs sometimes
Auditory issue - can't hear properly
Incapable to chit-chat - This one has been a long time issue, but I still couldn't understand why I just can't do small talks...

I know at work I used to be standing out a lot and some colleagues could find me with "too strong character". But some people really appreciated my straightforward style and got along really well with me.

It's different when I interact with non-work related people though where I behave a lot milder and almost timid - trying hard to be nice. But I realised lately, people in the school social circle might find me too intense and difficult to have a chilled conversation.

Do other people with ADHD have this issue at all? Does medication improve this?

Yes I do. I'm autistic and have ADHD.

People have always referred to me as intense.

I don't think you can be medicated for it specially.

Yes. I'm intense. Luckily most people just accept it as who I am xx

Yes, I’m intense. It’s who I am, and can be a big advantage. I wouldn’t want to medicate it away even if it were possible.

I do hope while medication could slow down the mind, the intensity could improve too... Just hoping.

Yes, I'm intense. I'm autistic and have ADHD. I'm not sure that I'd want to medicate the intensity away as it's part of who I am and if people don't like it, tough shit!

Yes, I'm intense - my speech, in particular, can be 1kmph if I don't make a very specific attempt to slow down (so, when presenting or similar).

I'm lucky, though, in that my family and friends 'get' me and I work in an area (IT) in which it's considered a plus, if anything.

I know this is a ridiculous question, but what do you mean by ‘intense’? I’ve been called it before, but can’t really figure out what I do to make me intense

@DeleteNdignore, talking very fast, pushing thoughts out without being aware how the other person feel, expressing non-positve thoughts, anxiety, being a bit blunt. More or less, just not chilled/relaxed.

Thanks, well that’s an eye opener!! I thought I was quite chilled and relaxed, but I do all of those things that you’ve said! Guess I should work on my self awareness…….

Yep I'm intense, can't do fucking boring social chitchat. It saves me that I'm really interested in people as in what makes them tick. But some people hate the intensity of it.

Also people used to think I was flirting or hitting on them when I wasn't. I was just fascinated by what they were saying 🤷‍♀️