Does anyone get an ADHD assessment and not get diagnosed

I had a private assessment and was diagnosed. However my NHS psychiatrist does not accept the diagnosis.

I think it happens to a lot of people, especially women.

I would be very interested to hear about this too...

I think you probably get what you pay for.

I would get that a reputable professional would only accept several hundred pounds if the pre assessment had suggested there was a high likelihood there was going to be a confirmed diagnosis.

Me. Although the assessor had only recently been trained, so I blame her, obviously .

I was diagnosed ASD (atypical) last year though. That goes some way to explaining why I am not suitable for modern life!

@Susu49 I don’t really understand why. My current NHS psychiatrist said my ADHD report was contradictory, but didn’t explain what that meant and I’ve reread and reread the report and I truly can’t make sense of that statement. He also said I couldn’t have it “because you would have been diagnosed as a child” and “you wouldn’t be able to stay in this seat” and also that “everyone has ADHD traits”. I do have mental health problems stretching back to early childhood and he seemed inclined to put everything down to “anxiety”. He has met me once. Previous NHS psychiatrist, who I met once also and then he left the service, said he wouldn’t accept the diagnosis either because it could also have been autism or a personality disorder and would need further assessment.

I guess I think it’s mainly about them not being very up to date with what neurodiversity looks like in women?

[quote ShiftingSands21]@Susu49 I don’t really understand why. My current NHS psychiatrist said my ADHD report was contradictory, but didn’t explain what that meant and I’ve reread and reread the report and I truly can’t make sense of that statement. He also said I couldn’t have it “because you would have been diagnosed as a child” and “you wouldn’t be able to stay in this seat” and also that “everyone has ADHD traits”. I do have mental health problems stretching back to early childhood and he seemed inclined to put everything down to “anxiety”. He has met me once. Previous NHS psychiatrist, who I met once also and then he left the service, said he wouldn’t accept the diagnosis either because it could also have been autism or a personality disorder and would need further assessment.

I guess I think it’s mainly about them not being very up to date with what neurodiversity looks like in women?[/quote]
I’d say that was exactly the problem.

Let’s face it, the first one could actually do the work to check out the possible alternative diagnoses. Couldn’t they?

The second sounds like he doesn’t even understand ADHD. More so as it tends to present in women.

My gp was a bit ridiculous too. He just kept saying that I would have have trouble at school and always being punished/not doing well. The fact I was always being told off for talking (that was the main feature of my school reports), that I never did my homework, that I lost and forgot stuff constantly, that my hyperactivity tends to present as twisting my hair into knots, and so on couldn’t be relevant because I wasn’t the stereotype of a naughty boy who runs around the classroom. 🙄

And the fact that I managed to do well at school despite being unable to organise myself or study or anything means it cannot be ADHD. No. The fact that my primary school thought I was really thick until I was 10, when a standardised test indicated that not only could I read (they didn’t think I could), my comprehension was adult level and I was really intelligent. The gap between potential and my perceived performance was enormous. After I got to secondary school I managed to get by on being clever but eventually it caught up with me and I fucked up two years of university (before life circumstances forced the kind of effort that gets you through) and I’ve struggled in various ways with being a competent adult with a job ever since. But somehow managing not to get sacked makes that irrelevant too. 🙄

It’s like they want to set the bar at a level if dysfunction where your life has totally imploded rather than recognising how much masking and compensation and general struggling goes on to just about keep things going.

I wish I understood why they approach these things from this stance of disbelief and skepticism and gate keeping. I don’t know if it’s just about entrenched beliefs or if it’s more to do with scarcity of resources or something else. There is so little recognition of the compensation, masking and the personal toll that takes on us. As women we are so conditioned to compensate, put others first, not make a fuss etc. all the time from the very start of life. Especially for male practitioners, I guess they aren’t necessarily aware of this in general and so they can’t imagine the potential extent of it? I don’t know!

My DD was referred for assessment and the referral was rejected as she apparently doesn't have it. Not sure how they came to that decision given they never even met her. She already has an autism diagnosis as does her brother and he has recently got the ADHD diagnosis too.

I’d say the fact that there’s no actual physical tests as such for ADHD, ADD, ASD, PDA, etc may be a strong factor.

My daughter got rejected by the NHS psychiatrist(?) Despite her GP being certain. Because she was sitting nicely on the chair ?!? He told her aged 6 that she was just being a bit naughty!!!

I’d say the fact that there’s no actual physical tests as such for ADHD, ADD, ASD, PDA, etc may be a strong factor.

But there are no physical tests for depression or anxiety but they love to diagnose women and girls with those all day long.

I’d say that palming people off with depression and anxiety is the favoured approach. Looks like you’re doing something while taking the path of least resistance.

Part of the problem is that it’s easy to mistake the issues for the things they ask you about in depression/anxiety screenings anyway.

Yes. I do struggle to find any motivation to sort out that overwhelming pile of laundry that needs folded and put away. It been there days. But we’re all dressed in clean clothes because it’s functioning as a makeshift clothes storage solution at this point. And I only ever remember it exists when I go in the utility room.

Yes I struggle to tidy my house. Yes it feels overwhelming but still I can’t just sort out the kitchen. But if you tell me you’re coming round in 30 minutes, I will dash around and you won’t know what a bloody disaster it has been for days because it’s just me and the kids.

Yes I do feel anxious about social interactions. I’m going to struggle to STFU and control my impulsivity. I’m fearful that I’ll be boring everyone with my (current) interests. I know I’m annoying. And I know that afterwards my brain will be going at a million miles an hour processing all the ways I was irritating and just crap afterwards.

So yes. Tick them all off the list. But they’re all effects of the issue. Not the cause.

@DoNotTouchTheWater I have many yeses for everything that you are saying!!

Sorry if this is taking over the original post. Happy to start a new thread if so. I understand there is a crossover of diagnoses. If paying for a private adhd assessment would their remit be to say yes or no to the adhd alone or can they generally say if not adhd then it’s autism or ocd for instance? Or would that require a whole new assessment

My guess would be they could possibly diagnose you with OCD there and then but if they suspected autism they would need to suggest you get another assessment as that is a more complex process.

Great thank you

@Nefelibata86 it depends where your assessment takes place, some providers can access for both.

My initial assessor was unsure whether I had ADHD but thankfully she knew her knowledge was poor. She called in a colleague who was the companies expert and after a quick look at me and a few questions I received my diagnosis