Experiences with work

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So I’m nearly 50 and I have very few (count on two fingers) work friends accumulated over my years. I have never fitted into the tea break/ water cooler/ Christmas do part of work, been accused of bullying by people I was scared of, been shunned by people etc. I hate working, it’s always me at fault even when I feel other people are wrong or performing badly - I think social stuff impacts everyone and if you fit in you get an easier ride.
I really want to leave work and give up trying anymore but then we wouldn’t have enough to money for bills and I would have little to no social interaction.

Have you thought about jobs working from home? There are more than there used to be due to Covid, some companies are wfh as they way forward now as its cost effective. X

Could any of you do some book keeping courses and move into accounts. I know offices have their challenges but there seem to be less exhuberant bubbly people in accounts. People in our office said that one particular young man was like a jack in the box and found the incessant chatter irritating.

We say a few things first thing in the morning eg about news, weather. Then we don't really talk much til late afternoon. It is hard to concentrate on work with chatter anyway.

Sonething in IT can be good, basically anything where people are interested in the work and are not walking around chatting continually.

@user1471554720 I'm too old to retrain now. I also have unmedicated adhd which means I can't concentrate on things for long and I'm physically very restless. I used to be a nurse, so was on the go constantly. The brainwork was of a different type to computer based work. I'm more suited to practical type activities.

Im nearly 50, no chance of retraining especially as I’m also a carer so difficult to be out the house for a full day.

Sorry to hear that.

I hope you can find something, maybe customet service wfh answering emails about specific things. The emails are quick so no need to concentrate on one query for long.

Dh says we will cope if I leave. Food for thought.

Dh says we will cope if I leave. Food for thought.

Well, this is something positive. My dh supported me in leaving nursing. I don't earn very much now, but I have peace of mind and my health has improved.

Yes I’m wondering if I just call it a day. I actually explained how my asd was less easy to live with now I’m older. I think that hope I had when I was younger, that this job was where I would fit in, that I’d get it right, that maybe the school gates would help - all that has gone and I’m just left knowing I’ll never have that.