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I don't like people saying my name
ofwarren · 23/01/2022 23:21
Anyone else have this weird issue?
When people are talking to me and they say my name, I cringe so much its painful. I really hate hearing it. It doesn't matter if they use my actual name or a nickname, I just can't stand my name being used to address me and I don't know why.
I also struggle using other people's name to address them and inwardly cringe if I have to say it. I'm okay with my kids names though.
I googled it and lots of autistic people say the same.
I wonder what it is?
ofwarren · 23/01/2022 23:25
@SilentNoMore
I think I feel removed from it too. I'm so bad at recognising what I feel though. All I know is that I really don't like it. It's even worse when the person keeps using it in the conversation
Charles11 · 23/01/2022 23:34
I feel like every time someone uses a name, they’re making a connection. Sometimes, it feels uncomfortable because it feels intimate? Especially if they keep saying my name. That probably sounds strange to most people but I have some mild issues with it. No one would know though 
ofwarren · 23/01/2022 23:38
@Charles11
That makes sense actually. I wonder if it's similar to why eye contact feels bad?
Could have all kinds of things on there that have been wondered about as "an autism thing".RNBrie · 23/01/2022 23:46
Oh I feel the same. Always avoid using people's names if i can and when someone says mine in makes me shudder. I call my children by nicknames, I even quite like it when they use my name rather than "mum". But I never use my dh's name and I feel weird when he uses mine. I have a few odd things like this and never gave it much thought.
FairytaleOfLancashire · 23/01/2022 23:50
I feel the same when saying my own name.
It sounds really strange to me.
I know some people who answer the phone by using their name - instead of saying HELLO they'll say 'Deirdre Connor...'
Everytine I hear someone on the TV or radio say their own name ('welcome to the Jeremy Vine show' or 'call the Oprah Winfrey/Graham Norton etc etc show') I think it's really odd and I would never be able to do that, so I've deliberately never got famous and had my own show.
Charles11 · 23/01/2022 23:57
There’s a film I watched called Knight and Day where the male lead keeps saying the female leads name. There’s a tense situation where he says her name a few times and she says ‘please don’t say my name. You keep saying my name and it’s freaking me out’.
I remember that part so well as it struck me. I still don’t know if I understood the clip in the same way as other people would
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