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DD dating Muslim boy at uni

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Cyberjammies · 15/02/2026 17:30

DD started dating a Muslim boy at uni -

DD ( fairly non religious although attended faith schools most of life) has started seeing a boy in her halls of residence. Both 18/19 - he is from a fairly strong Muslim family according to her who were originally from Pakistan.

They started as friends but over the last few months their friendship and closeness has escalated although they haven’t kissed yet, just cuddled.

He sounds a really great boy, and my DD is a sweet, somewhat naive girl who has never had a boyfriend or anything.

I had a chat with her about it and asked some questions as I know a bit about Islam but not a great deal. She said that he has told her that his family would not be happy for him to date a non- Muslim, especially a white girl? Apparently she has assured him that she would be happy to convert to Islam in the future if their relationship became more serious?!?

Shes Also said that they could not kiss unless married?

We are a fairly liberal family although not atheist, we are non-practicing Christians really! I’m not sure I’m comfortable with her being made to feel like she might be unaccepted, although I realise it’s her decision but our values are more along the line of, ‘are they kind, caring, respectful, honest?’ Not about which religion we practice or skin colour etc.

I am worried that things are already escalating (he spoiled her on Valentine’s Day for example) and they get on so well… besotted is the word! Is she likely to have her heart broken 💔, of be made to feel she is not good enough? Will it end in tears ? They are both live and study in the South east of England.

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fouroclockrock · 15/02/2026 22:16

Hard to say really but it is quite likely that he will keep her hidden away in the short term. Who knows about long term but they are very young still. From what he has said so far, it sounds like he is enjoying the moment while he can. Why has she said she would become Muslim when she knows little about it? Well, its because she’s infatuated but its a silly thing to agree to lightly.

Cyberjammies · 16/02/2026 13:42

Thanks, I agree, I guess they are just really into each other. She has been learning about Islam and loves learning about different cultures etc but there is one thing doing that and another thing to convert to a different religion! Apparently, he said it couldn’t be anything serious because she’s not Muslim, which may be why she said it? I’m just sad it comes down to what religion they both are, if they like each other! They are still young - but can’t kiss unless married kind of forces the issue somewhat I guess 😬

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