Nikah in Morocco, talaq and new pregnancy

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Hello I need help with my situation. I was with Moroccan man, only did private nikah with me, not legal marriage and now hes uttered talaq to me and I didn’t want this - he always made me believe we would always see through any negativity and arguments. But alas he isn’t the man of his word. But the only thing is now I am pregnant. He said I should get an abortion. How can he say this... we are both Muslim. And abortion is not an option. I am not Moroccan and back to my homeland. I told his mum and she hasn’t responded to me. I can’t force him to be with me. But there’s gotta be more than being a single mom…. How can men get away with this type of behaviour?
public image is a lot to him. Perhaps I should tell his extended family and friends of what his position is on our child? This type of attitude is not supported in Islamic Moroccan conservative society. He thinks he has no consequences to face because I am a foreigner.
what shall I do?

It might make you feel better to tell his extended family and friends what he's done, but it sounds like it's too late to save the marriage. If I were you I'd find out about child support laws in Morocco to ensure he doesn't shirk his responsibility.

Can you define ‘private’ nikkah? Which country did you get married in?

@Istilldontlikeolives private nikah is solemnising the marriage that satisfies Islamic requirements - bride groom two witnesses and acceptance of marriage to each other. The state is unaware of this marriage as it has not been registered on the civic register. He married me, celebrating the occasion with his family. This was in Morocco.

@ForPeaceSake I have done this last night. After DNA test has been established, court does order maintenance depending on his financial situation. That’s gonna have to be my route. As our marriage was not legally registered, DC will be considered out of wedlock. But recent changes in Moroccan law doesn’t discriminate in or outside of marriage support for children.

Ok so you did a standard nikah. When you wrote private I thought you meant it was done in a secretive way. I don’t know much at all about Moroccan law so I wouldn’t like to advise. It is a terrible situation to have put you in but he has shown his true colours. How long were you married? What is your ideal outcome? Can you support yourself in your country?

Have you checked whether or not nikah alone is legally binding in Morocco? Were photos taken at the wedding, I.e. proof that it took place?

So sorry. But you should never ever do private Nikkah. Didn't you know the Islam is law on marriage. Nikkah with witnesses and 3 days later is a Walima to announce to the world and community.

The law states that now you are pregnant you have 9 months of Iddah until the child is born you are in Iddah. The man is ibliged to care for the baby and provide financially for you. As you donnit have Papers from the islanic judge in Morocco they can not help you. So go to the courte in your honeland to get CMS. Once your Iddah is uo then your can go about life as normal. Dont be petty but yes whare the news of the baby with family and friends otherwise he may tarnish your reputation and say it is not his and some one else's. The surname on the birth certificate must be the biological fathers. Co twct your local sheikh for further help.

I am from North Africa and I always tell people stay away from Moroccans they are manipulative and not trust worthy. I know first hand. And hence why I married some one from another country.

It isn't if not done with Islamic Judge Qadi and witnesses with ID cardw and proper paper work.
I did it myself. And divorced through the same way. That is thebonly iption in Morocco. I.e no financial support is given as she did a hidden Nikkah. He teicked her becuase she is maybe naive revert OR no idea of the law in Morocco. Without proper marroage contract she has 0 rights.