Lonely Eid- am I the only one?

maaataa · 2025-03-30T15:25:46+00:00

Just as the title suggests- my first Eid as a soon to be divorced woman. The DC are with their dad and his family (who live locally), I’m by myself. I’ve just come out of the house to Taste of Lahore for some Eid spirit and food! I’m feeling so sad…

ForPeaceSake · 30/03/2025 19:59

Eid mubarak sister. So sorry you're on your own. Eid can feel like the saddest time of the year, when everyone else seems to be enjoying themselves with family all around.

I'm doing it tomorrow, DS probably won't be with me, but I've long since let go of the expectation that community will rally round. So I just do something that I like on my own, and have a meal or ice cream with DS next weekend.

Can you treat yourself to a cosy evening binge watching your favourite shows? Or whatever you enjoy that you don't often have time for.

Sending you a virtual Eid hug xx 🌙

Scirocco · 30/03/2025 20:36

Eid Mubarak, sister!

Different circumstances but I've spent a couple of Eids alone when I first became Muslim - I didn't have any Muslim relatives and my friends then were usually spending most of it with family. It did feel lonely, especially the first one! I made those days about what I wanted to do - eating what and where I wanted, having an activity that I wanted to do (even just shopping and treating myself to a nice Eid present), reading and having a boxset or film I wanted to watch. Treat yourself to a day of doing what you want. Order the most decadent, sugar-filled, amazing dessert you can find, have it delivered to your house, and eat it in your pyjamas watching something you love but don't usually get to watch.

Parkingt111 · 31/03/2025 10:59

I spent Eid day in hospital with Dd so a different type of alone, the staff here were lovely and there's another mum on the ward who was celebrating too so we had some cake together. My Eid lunch was an unconventional but still very tasty jacket potato and beans!

Nazzywish · 01/04/2025 22:39

A day or two late but passing by to say thinking of all you ladies and said a prayer for you. Hope you found some joy in what sounded like a difficult day for some. Really wish mosques would be more proactive in setting up initiatives for those on their own on days like this. A simple meal together scheduled even after eid would do wonders to bridge those connections between those who feel isolated in the community. I love the community feel over ramadan because the iftaris for families at mosque often mean you meet so many new sisters and connect but it just disappears overnight and eid day needs more thought for those in this position.

Nazzywish · 01/04/2025 22:41

Parkingt111 · 31/03/2025 10:59

I spent Eid day in hospital with Dd so a different type of alone, the staff here were lovely and there's another mum on the ward who was celebrating too so we had some cake together. My Eid lunch was an unconventional but still very tasty jacket potato and beans!

If there's cheese with that jacket and beans it's def a winner ;)

Scirocco · 01/04/2025 23:52

Parkingt111 · 31/03/2025 10:59

I spent Eid day in hospital with Dd so a different type of alone, the staff here were lovely and there's another mum on the ward who was celebrating too so we had some cake together. My Eid lunch was an unconventional but still very tasty jacket potato and beans!

Is your DD alright now? May Allah grant her shifaa.

anotherlevel · 02/04/2025 18:17

Parkingt111 · 31/03/2025 10:59

I spent Eid day in hospital with Dd so a different type of alone, the staff here were lovely and there's another mum on the ward who was celebrating too so we had some cake together. My Eid lunch was an unconventional but still very tasty jacket potato and beans!

Aw no I’m sorry to hear this - hope everything and everyone is ok

MixedBananas · 02/04/2025 20:34

I spent 4 Eids alone growing up. It was lonely but I tried to make it beneficial. And after 2 years I had family to spend with.

Where are your family? Can't you share 50/50 with your kids?
Always do Eid Salaht and go along to why Eid events. Try to socialise and make mew connections.

It is scarey but if you don't try it won't happen by itself.

Parkingt111 · 04/04/2025 20:28

JazakAllah for asking, Alhamdulillah much better now but we had quite a scare. We opened her eid presents together yesterday as she was feeling abit better which cheered her up.

Istilldontlikeolives · 05/04/2025 17:46

It is true that mosques aren’t great in such situations over Eid. Even in the big mosques i see people desperate to get in for the prayer but then as soon as the khutba starts they get up and leave or start talking. Its astonishing! So many will not even look at you and say Eid Mubarak. I always wonder why they are in such a hurry to leave. Sitting at home watching tv or going shopping definitely doesnt feel like a treat, particularly if you are by yourself at Eid. I think the only solution is to attempt to build up some sort of community around you but it can take time and isnt always easy.