So I’m currently resenting life with my in laws. I am Pakistani and live with my in laws. I found some things difficult to begin with such as my MIL would always make a comment when I was going to my parents house, yes I go regularly, but it is my choice and my husband has no issue. Then she also wouldn’t want my husband to go out to eat to watch his weight, which I found unfair as a couple, so we would sneakily do this, I didn’t say anything to my husband at the time but I did feel like she shouldn’t be doing this. She likes to be in charge in the house. She did want me to do cooking too though at the start I didn’t know many dishes, but her and my SIL are picky was I didn’t want to. Anyway she does the cooking in the house. I now also have a child and who she does a lot with. But she was overbearing at the start and because I stood my ground she got offended and upset. She still gets offended if something is said to her, she thinks she has experience, which I agree with but I’m not obligated do to what she wants though I do often times, because in Islam the right to choose what to do is given to parents not grandparents. She is too culturally traditional. Her views are also traditional in terms of housework, despite thinking women should also work. She wants me to do a lot more with my in laws than my family. I stopped working and she keeps advising me to do some work etc, though I do plan on working but from home and I didn’t take much maternity time, I also lost a parent just before going to work so I wanted a break. I just feel life here is without much privacy, though I have had help and at times help I’ve not needed, I do feel like I’ve missed moments in my child’s life because of over involvement. I’ve had a few arguments with her since my son was born, I am able to see when I have been rude (sometimes intended to get the message across though it has strained our relationship, though I think sometimes when people don’t understand nicely you should be more blunt, I do apologise if I have hurt anyone) but she can’t see anything she does at all. She is very caring towards my child but she is easily offended, she wanted to be called 'mama’ as her kids call her that, which makes no sense. Sometimes when she thinks I can’t hear her she will say mama is here etc. she likes to be in control so if he got hurt she’d say give him to me he is okay with me, but then over time he is okay with her the most. She will never tell me to hold him during pictures she’ll always hold him and only say to her kids ‘someone else’ hold him. She didn’t let some of my cousins/relatives hold him. But people SHE is close to she’ll encourage them. She IS biased but she doesn’t see it. I’m not sure my husband entirely does, I think everyone just thinks I’m being extra.