No other female relatives nearby to be examples of our faith... Feeling the pressure...

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Due to our family circumstances, I'm the only regular female role model in DC's family belonging to our faith, and as they get a bit older I'm starting to worry about how to get this right...

They've got other people around, like my friends, but it's the at-home stuff, the teaching and setting a good example... I'm feeling quite stressed about wanting to get it right and thinking (knowing) I'm getting things wrong...

Does anyone have any advice or resources for incorporating positive female representation into daily home life in the absence of other real-life female role models in the home? (DC is 2 and loves books, running around outside, animals and general chaos, can watch a decent-length TV show or about half a film in a sitting)

If your DC is 2, I would probably have age-relevant conversations about all religions and the importance of respect.

There are some good child books, specifically for Muslim children.

I hope this helps!

Thanks! Do you have any books you'd recommend in particular?

Being a role model is praying Salah on time, do the a'maal after Salah eg Tasbeeh Fatimi, read du'as for every action etc. Your children will Insha Allah pick this up from you.
Keep haram out of the home, including TV (many non Muslims have got rid of the TV too), keep stories of the Prophets and Awliya, read them to your children daily.

It's hard thinking it is all on you but Islam is a way of life, by incorporating the Sunnah, our life is 24 hours in the way of Islam, even by keeping wudhu, going to sleep with a good deed etc.

Play the recitation of the Qur'an eg from minshawi as he has tajweed. Just play the audio so kids aren't staring at a screen for long.

Also speaking nicely, kindly etc.

There's a really good book called the sublime character of the messenger sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam. In there you can read not just rh Sunnahs, but how the Messenger sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam dealt with different situations. Reading this will help shape our character, which in turn children pick up.

May Allah Ta'ala allow us to follow the example of his messenger sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam and make our children grow up to be pious and in submission to Him.

JazakAllah khair

It can be a daunting responsibility, InshaAllah DC can overlook my shortcomings and see my intention.

Depending on what values you want to model, there are plenty of books that a very positive and great for girls. Your DC is still fairly young, but I like the I say series (https://www.kubepublishing.com/collections/vendors?q=Noor%20H.%20Dee&contributorID=100166) and My first book about (https://www.kubepublishing.com/products/my-first-set-sara-khan?pos=5&&sid=9c3cf540f&ss=r ) which are board books and suitable for a 2 year old. My first books series is aimed at slightly older children but the fact that it's a board book is good for the younger ones.
Specifically for girls and hijab related, I think 'the proudest blue' is amazing!

And aside from other people being positive role models; you're the best placed to be that role model for your child. You don't have to be perfect but do what you can and learn alongside your child. You'll be great and will raise a wonderful child inshallah!

I also like the desi doll toys as they're Islam focussed which can be more subliminal exposure to Islam and they have a lovely book about Allahs names- your DC is too young for it but it is a press and listen sort of book and I know the younger ones love pressing buttons and leafing through the book under supervision.

JazakAllah khair, those books are brilliant!

And the desi dolls are adorable - DC got one for Eid and it's pretty much the only doll they play with at the moment Alhamdulillah.