How can dp get his musical "soul" back?

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DP has been very ill.Hes now back at home after 6 months in hospital.Hes been home 4 months but is still recuperating but does have active spells during the day on a good day.

Before illness he lived dreamed,slept music.I was a guitar widow.Now he just sits in front of the telly....I think it would help him to pick up his music again,blast out a few riffs,annoy me by turning the volume up and I'm missing it,the old dp enthusiasm...He writes stuff too.I feel it would do him good to get back into it...hes a fab musician.He gets tired easily.Should I try taking the dcs out in the morning so he can do a little bit if he feels up to it.Hes tired in the evenings when dcs in bed.I think he would benefit from the time.

As a musician myself, finding the energy to make or create music whe you are feeling very ill is terribly hard...when I was recuperating from major surgery the only way I could enjoy music was by listening..I knew I was getting better when I started criticising other peoples interpretations of my favourite pieces...
Perhaps putting some cds on before the telly gets switched on might rekindle the spark.
hope he is feeling better again soon

Thanks,Floria.

What do you play?(Instrument and type of music)

I'm thinking classical,from your name!

Very .

Being musical is a lovely skill to have.

Your poor DP (and you)! I think it will come with time, if he's still getting better. You could sneakily tell him you're trying to remember the words of a song, or which album a particular song is on, to get him to get something out and play it. Or if he has any music-scene friends, get them round to visit him, or could you plan going to a gig together for a time when he should be up to going out in the evening? - you could say you would like to do that, then ask him if he can find out what's on and when.

Hi WT
sorry not to respond...wireless internet connection bombed out and only got it back late last night when dp came home and fixed it...I wasnt ignoring you, honest
Have any of snowleopards ideas or mine worked yet? How is your dh doing? I think SLs idea of musical friends visiting or just phoning, it reminede me of when I was ill, it was a phone call from a very sucessful friend asking what I thought of a recent recording by someone we knew (ie bitching criticising)that got me practising again.

Oh and yes, my not very subtle nickname gives me away. I am was a classical singer though only on rare occasions now as I am a sahm to a 7mth old...but I used to be in opera, Puccini and Verdi mainly (but anything that paid)but now it is the occasional gala or oratorio. I wouldnt envy it though, it might be a nice skill and the life looks glamorous but it is long hours, physically more tiring than you would think, work is hard to come by, you are away from home,family and friends for long lonely periods of time and worst of all it doesnt pay well unless you are really famous, definately a vocation not a career... motherhood is much more fulfilling
...but for all that I no longer enjoy music as a full time job, it is a big part of who I am/ my personality and I'm a better person when I am preparing for a performance or have performed ...I do hope your Dh gets his muse back soon...