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Glass Adult

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ThisMerryLurker · 25/03/2024 11:33

Is there such a thing as a glass adult?

Grew up with a sibling with extreme physical and mental disabilities. We never went without practically and had a good, stable upbringing but emotionally there was never much left. Always in the shadows. Found the term, glass child and it resonated so much.

Even now, in my 50's, I am still in the shadows. Every conversation, event, location, plan is centred around the sibling.

Have tried to approach it over the years but my feelings are dismissed so its easier to keep quiet. Regular contact with mother but conversation very cordial. Would never go into personal details with her as don't have that connection although she would be very hurt if she realised. Sometimes she doesn't even ask about me or spouse, just goes on about sibling. Even worse sibling is now in palliative care. I have much closer relationships with friends than I do with my family.

Is it normal to be a glass adult?

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BillieEyelash1 · 25/03/2024 11:57

I feel I can resonate with a lot of this, though my sibling wasn’t born with a disability and developed it as a child. Have a look at the sibs charity, on their website they have a lot of information and have an E-book for adult siblings that can be downloaded which I found to be helpful.

https://www.sibs.org.uk/support-for-adult-siblings/

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