Husband referred for ADHD

[Strawberry06]

Just looking for a hand hold really

Last night DH told me he's been to see a doctor and been referred for ADHD. I must admit it didn't come as a complete shock/surprise to me as I said to him I always thought he had tics or stims and certain behaviours associated with ADHD.

If he does have it (which the doctor seems to think he does) then he copes pretty well with it however I am about to give birth to our son (39 weeks) and my own anxieties are creeping in wondering what this means for him as I've read these things are usually inherited from the father?

I guess we wouldn't know immediately but just hoping for advice.

I assume you've had the bath by now @Strawberry06 so congratulations!

Yes, ADHD can be hereditary but now that DH is being assessed you will know what to look for with your LO.

FWIW my DS is diagnosed with inattentive ADHD and is kind, charming, has lots of friends and is doing really well at Uni.

Having ADHD just means that you're wired a little different and there is support available now, DS has DSA which helps with his studies.

As someone with both ADHD and ASD I find your post rather insulting. What is it YOU need a handhold for? It is your husband that has gotten or getting the diagnosis and you loved him and his 'issues' enough to marry him and yes it can be hereditary but so what? What is the worry exactly?

Because everyone offers help to the person with ADHD and ASD and nothing to the person who has just given birth and maybe needs supporting herself, rather than her supporting her DH. Rather than assuming he will step up, it is likely that that ADHD may prevent this happening. Did you really need to ask that question? You are not the only person with ADHD and ASD you know.

@m00rfarm did you really need to be so rude? Yes I needed to ask the question as I feel it is a valid one and am interested.

Rude? You need to reread your response to the OP. If you were really interested in a productive discussion, you could have asked in a polite way. But you didn't.

@m00rfarm public forum. I will articulate my responses and questions towards posters the way I feel I should.

Likewise.

Your baby will be fine. Adhd is not the end of the world. We get the luck of the draw. Adhd is slightly more inherited from mothers as far as i know but lets be honest its the lottery of genetics. Anything could happen.

Son will be gorgeous and squishy and its an exiting time so just enjoy being pregnant! Youre going to be very busy soon so have fun and take naps while you have the chance!