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princesscharming23 · 26/09/2023 19:12

Hi guys, hopefully I can get someone else's point of view, and you can tell me if I'm going crazy or I have a right to feel pretty damn let down!!So I have a number of health conditions and am registered disabled,I've never used my daughters school car park disabled bays as I felt I didn't need to at that point, my pain and disability was manageable. ( its a private gated carpark with buzzer entry , for the use if both infant and junior school)My slaughter is niw in the juniours just started the new school year, my health is deteriorated my disability affects 1 of my legs now and cases me a great deal of pain , I cannot walk too far and so as per the policy I wrote in to Head of school and asked for permission to park in the disabled bay in the on site car park, listed my conditions etc, later that week I had the decision which was granted I have acess... then it all goes T##s up.....My health conditions cause me to not be able to take my children to sxhool in the mornings, and so I have a very supportive husband that does all this for me , drops them off and bevause I want to be part in doing this I always collect them from school so we both have a part each.However, I have just now been told by school, that I no longer have acess to the disabled bays on site as my husbands the driver ( bearing in mind I'm unable to drive now as the pain I am in with my leg and hip ) and the fact he's the driver then he can collect them for me so I dint need the bay.I explained that I want to be able to collect my children from school, I already feel low as it is as there's lots I can't do and the 1 thing I want to do is collect them and as well as I can't drop them in the mornings off, the inly way I'm able to do this is if I park on site, I said my husband has to drive me and she said but then he can get them, I explained they would be taking that away from me . And can't my husband just drop me off at the gates outside, which no he can't as its da ferrous, its a main road the school run is chaotic and he'd be obstructing traffic. Also I wouldn't be able to walk that far.Question is , where do I stand. Am I being petty by feeling so down....what do I do....Thanks so much for reading my post.I also suffer from sever anxiety, and ocd and my husband is my registered carer.

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SiouxsieSiouxStiletto · 17/12/2023 09:11

I can see it from both sides. Your DH is able to collect the DC and it will cause ill feeling with the other Parents if you have access to the carpark and disabled bay when your DH can and does do the driving but you want to be able to pick your DC up sometimes.

Could you say to the school that you understand but could you be allowed access for things like school plays and parents evening and maybe one pick up per week?

MinnieCauldwell · 17/12/2023 09:27

Having a blue badge would help your cause, are you in the UK? I say that as we do not have a register of disabled people. Assume you are getting PIP?

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