Fell at cinema and feeling down about it

[Worrysaboutalot]

Feeling down and embarrassed about my fall, feel bad especially for my family who were with me. 😧

I use a wheelchair 100% outside the house and a bit in the house, wall surfing with crutches the rest of the time (stair lift etc).

I had transferred from my wheelchair to a cinema seat using crutches and a couple of steps. But when I tried standing at the end of the film, my legs just completely gave way and I crumbled to the ground.

Then I really struggled even with my husband's help to stand again. I don't have much feeling in my legs, they are numb with nerve damage, so kneeling is impossible.

People were staring and me being fat doesn't help. As people assume it is fatness not illness which causes my issues. I wish they understand how hard it is losing weight whilst in a wheelchair and on long term steroids

Made me sad, shows me how broken I am 😥

What if I fell on my own, I couldn't get up at all!

Sorry to read this, you have nothing to feel embarrassed about. Maybe if people / someone had helped rather than staring you would have been able to get up with the help of two people.
I would suggest if you are home alone a bit you could get one of those lifeline alarms that you can have on your wrist so that you could call for help if needed. better than being on the floor for hours.
And please don't feel embarrassed about your weight. It's hard enough to lose weight even for people who are mobile.

I am so sorry. It is horrible.
I went to an event in a conference centre a couple of years ago. There were free drinks but I was careful to drink only water as I have a neurological condition. I had also put on a lot of weight due to long term steroids.
As I was carefully (I thought) making my way across the room to go to the loo, I suddenly tripped over my own feet and went into a sort of dive, landing like a sack of potatoes in the middle of the room.
I just knew everyone would think I was drunk.
I had risked going without my stick that day. I hate using it, but I lost my confidence that day.
Those people in the cinema don't know you, you probably won't see them again.
Keep on keeping on.

You have nothing to be embarrassed about, unlike the folk who stared at you.

I try really hard to go through life expecting the best of people - if you were on your own and fell I’d come and ask if I could help you. I try to think most people would.

a lifeline alarm for at home when you’re on your own might be a good idea but you could probably train an Alexa to do the same thing.

as for your weight, it’s nobody’s business but yours (although there will be plenty people who read this thread to whom it would never have occurred that steroids and immobility could be the cause rather than the effect of weight gain)

hope you didn’t cause yourself any damage last night and enjoyed the film

The film was enjoyable. I just felt I had spoilt a family outing by making everything into a drama.

Plus my DH has also been diagnosed with a neurological condition, we both worry about the future.

I usually with DH or my parents. Things like this make me worry about going out on my own or me and the kids.

I will have to get on with things, it has just made me sad.

I'm sorry you're feeling so sad, i identify completely
Those people were ignorant and unkind but you'll never see them again
I have Cerebral Palsy on my left side, at 58 I now live alone, DC grown up My leg gave way and I got stuck in my bath. I had no phone, no way of getting help, and I was so sad.. it was the first time I'd ever felt defeated and it forced me to face my vulnerability
I wear a waterproof lanyard with my phone, have applied for a grant to have a walk in shower and now use a rollator
Use your stick or anything else to help you enjoy life and don't let this break your confidence
I apologise for my ramblings and send my best to you

you have nothing to be embarrassed about honestly x im sure people were looking at you out of concern because you had fallen xx