Unreasonable neighbor's

[NINAKAREN]

I am 60 this year . Have 3 grandchildren ages 8 9 13 yrs old . The 2 youngest have additional needs they have been with us 8 yrs this Christmas and I have a residence order
my husband unfortunately passed away 2yrs ago and I am now on my own with 3 grandchildren
I live in the south side of the city with a walled garden area with a trampoline in the garden
I have a neighbour who recently came to my door complaining about the noise in my garden I feel quite intimidated and being a widow on my own difficult enough with 3 children
it was 3..30pm in the afternoon, they were playing on the trampoline jumping and laughing screaming shouting and he told them to be quiet . Both of them have additional needs and this is there way of self regulating after being at school !
he said they are too loud and either keep them in ,or let one out at a time !

i never put them out early as I’m conscientious at the weekend of having a bit longer in bed so it’s usually around 11.30 12noon . I feel they should be allowed to run about and have fun , I can’t take both of them to a park or swimming on my own as it’s really difficult , they need 1-1 I’ve tried explaining this to my neighbour but not interested life is hard enough for me and I really feel they are being unreasonable I feel if my husband was alive would he complain , I feel bullied into keeping the peace
Am I being unreasonable ?
Last year I was hardly at home because of this in the summer months I really would like to think I could spend this summer more in our garden

I may add that when they are having their friends in for garden parties it isn’t when I take the children in . However I no are sure when they have friends in that the children are not in the garden . How much do I have to compromise and how little they seem to compromise ?

I’m on your side here, I think your neighbour could be a bit more tolerant. If you can encourage them to keep the noise down do, but if their additional needs make that impossible let them crack on. It doesn’t sound like they are out there round the clock.

I don't understand this post, I think you wrote it in a rush?

How much do I have to compromise and how little they seem to compromise ?

Both of you accept that your neighbours (and visitors) are allowed to be out in your gardens, talking and laughing at a normal volume. Either side shouting and screaming isn't okay.

I live near a screamer. Its like having fingernails scraping down a blackboard and sends me crazy. Its the pitch, not the loudness.

I also live near a nursery that has many toddlers and babies. They cry, they shout, they run around with wheeled toys making that road sound, and the odd toy car horn and it doesn't bother me at all. I like hearing them playing and laughing. But fucking screamers?? Hell no.