Bully leaving my work yay

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I just need a handhold, I am autistic and work in a busy setting with lots of interactions with public. I cope with it well, but the person who is leaving has been prone to being offhand to the point of aggression also causing others to be blamed for things they have done. I have, along with several others, asked not to be put on shift with them and this is working out fine as they work their notice. However they came in today for a bit of a chat etc and it made me feel a) how glad I am that I have so far not reacted or shown them how upsetting I find them and b) very anxious in case I am still at risk of being bullied. I really need to be able to mask or somehow up my defences until they finally leave.

Anyone?

They are leaving and it sounds like you have done great so far. You have stood up for yourself asking not to be put on shift with them so hopefully you wont be and then they will be gone. Try not to worry if they are like it with everyone it's nothing personal to you.

Thank you. I had a good day today. I have managed to avoid working in conventional work situations most of my life, but I don't have much choice at the moment. It does feel very painful to be nearly sixty and still feel hurt in petty ways. But you're right, the person has done this to others.

That's good try to find the positive in a day or situation if you can. My son is ASD and this is something he really struggles with. He can have a day where 90 percent of it is good but if 10 percent is bad he will focus on that 10 percent and go over and over again.

It can be very hard for young people, it can seem almost necessary to catastrophise. And it's very hard to stand up for yourself. In my mind I was able to do it because I realised that denying my own human right is somehow against all human rights. Very lofty I know but it makes sense. I hope things get better for your son.