Struggling with DD (9) loneliness

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DD is ASC and is very choosy about who she’ll spend time with and so she’ll spend break and lunchtimes by herself. Friendship groups are also very well established by this stage so it’s tricky to find a friend - and one you can tolerate iykwim!

But at the same time she feels like a freak and is now very down about herself and going to school.

I also suspect I’m ASC and am very very poor at offering advice in this area as I used to have very similar schooldays…

But my question is how to support myself as her sadness feels so terrible and so overwhelming.

Main problem being I struggle to offer perspective and - whilst I’m masking my distress to her, naturally - I’m totally floored by it. I can’t sleep and it seems to ‘take over’ my days.

School are being moderately helpful with lunch clubs etc but there isn’t an immediate fix!

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Bumping