I had my autism assessment this morning

[CardoMondo]

Not sure how I’d cope with a “not autistic” diagnosis 😢 never really thought about it until today

Did they tell you why they thought you aren't autistic?

No but she did keep asking why a diagnosis would benefit me. She was lovely, but I had a troubled upbringing and I’m worried they might decide my issues are down to my upbringing. DH helped though with his insight into the way I am

Well done for going through the assessment. I hope you found it helpful and will get the diagnosis, if that's what you believe is the correct thing - sorry, not sure exactly the right thing to say. It's good that your dh was able to help.

Do you have to wait a while to get the result? I assumed they might tell you at the assessment. I hope it's not too stressful for you having to wait.

Do you think it's necessary to have someone with you during the assessment? I am awaiting assessment atm - filled in the forms, etc and one of my siblings has filled in a family form regarding what I was like as a child, but lives a long way away so couldn't attend (if it's in person by then). I don't think I could cope with dh being there, or anyone else really. I am feeling like my whole life is in question since I realised I was autistic, including my relationship with dh. I don't want to feel like I have to be tactful because I need to be sensitive to the feelings of another person during the assessment. I'd rather I was just alone and could say what I want, but I'm not sure if that would carry enough weight if I don't have someone there to back up what I'm saying.

@bluegovan

Well done for going through the assessment. I hope you found it helpful and will get the diagnosis, if that's what you believe is the correct thing - sorry, not sure exactly the right thing to say. It's good that your dh was able to help.

Do you have to wait a while to get the result? I assumed they might tell you at the assessment. I hope it's not too stressful for you having to wait.

Do you think it's necessary to have someone with you during the assessment? I am awaiting assessment atm - filled in the forms, etc and one of my siblings has filled in a family form regarding what I was like as a child, but lives a long way away so couldn't attend (if it's in person by then). I don't think I could cope with dh being there, or anyone else really. I am feeling like my whole life is in question since I realised I was autistic, including my relationship with dh. I don't want to feel like I have to be tactful because I need to be sensitive to the feelings of another person during the assessment. I'd rather I was just alone and could say what I want, but I'm not sure if that would carry enough weight if I don't have someone there to back up what I'm saying.

I have a feedback (and possible diagnosis) appointment next Thursday. I don’t think it’s necessary to have anyone else there, DH was actually at work during my appointment but just happened to come home before the consultation ended. I won’t lie, his input did help but it was only by chance that he happened to be available. She wasn’t expecting it.

That's good you don't have to wait too long. And thanks for info about your dh's input.

I don't have my appointment date yet, but when I do I willt ask a bit more about the input of the accompanying person. Maybe dh could contribute a bit but sit out of most of it, though atm I think I'd prefer to do it alone.

You could always ask to do yours and DH’s parts separately? That way DH won’t know what you have said and you can speak freely. DH never listened to anything I said :-)

I didn't realise that might be an option - thanks. That sounds a good idea.

Good luck for Thursday

@bluegovan

Well done for going through the assessment. I hope you found it helpful and will get the diagnosis, if that's what you believe is the correct thing - sorry, not sure exactly the right thing to say. It's good that your dh was able to help.

Do you have to wait a while to get the result? I assumed they might tell you at the assessment. I hope it's not too stressful for you having to wait.

Do you think it's necessary to have someone with you during the assessment? I am awaiting assessment atm - filled in the forms, etc and one of my siblings has filled in a family form regarding what I was like as a child, but lives a long way away so couldn't attend (if it's in person by then). I don't think I could cope with dh being there, or anyone else really. I am feeling like my whole life is in question since I realised I was autistic, including my relationship with dh. I don't want to feel like I have to be tactful because I need to be sensitive to the feelings of another person during the assessment. I'd rather I was just alone and could say what I want, but I'm not sure if that would carry enough weight if I don't have someone there to back up what I'm saying.

Hello 👋

I had my assessment two years ago now. For me, it was two hours - my husband and I were taken into individual rooms and the two people interviewing us swapped halfway through. They came back together to give us a diagnosis at the end. So, if it’s like mine, you won’t need to worry about tact because he won’t be in the room. I really found it helpful for him to be there because he could obviously discuss details that I couldn’t (and I couldn’t see for crying so he needed to drive me home).

Any autism service worth its salt should let you know exactly who will need to be there, when and why - it’s so useful to know exactly what to expect. I’m sure they’ll be happy to give you this information once you have your assessment appointment.

I hope it goes well for you

Best wishes I've just had my screening done and unsure what's next. The assessment sounds full on.

@CardoMondo how did it go? I've just come across your thread and hope you're ok.