Autism

[elisha111]

My son 3.5 years is on the waiting list to see if he has got autisum I strongly think he has it he is really representative slaps me and his fast alot and his nan his auntie just randomly for no reason lines up his car in a stright line lines up my shoes in a stright line he is very very naughty at times does not listen to me I have to always buy him a car when I'm out his sometimes slaps me in his sleep first he does when he gets up is play with his car always telling me no he always sits there picking his lip constantly his lips gets really sore he don't like no one touching his scooter if I touch it or move it he will be very angry it's like every year things get worse he sometimes don't like going on shops a few months ago he use to constantly get up in the middle of the night like 3 in the morning running round my house pulling my curtains a'd it happened for a very long time he is very hard work he sometimes rolls his eyes back and laughs he does so strange things at times he throws things at home constantly he always wants to shut my living room door I'm 80th in the line to see if he has autisum I feel like he does

I am not a professional, but I am autistic, I would say this sounds like autism and even if it isn’t, it is good to get it looked at. I do want to say a few things and I will treat it as him being autistic. He is not naughty (or at least not trying to be naughty), autism is a communication disorder which makes it very difficult to not only communicate but understand other people when they communicate. I used to hit a lot as a child for a few reasons, I felt like I wasn’t being listened to, if I was hurt by someone’s actions but either I couldn’t explain or they didn’t apologize then I hit them to show how hurt I was and I also hit when I felt afraid but couldn’t explain it. He either picks his lips as a sensory thing or as a method to calm down. He doesn’t like you touching his scooter/stuff because in his head, that is his things and he feels much more safe and in control when he knows where his stuff is and gets to decide where it stays. Having control helps a lot of us autistics to feel safe, it isn’t manipulation or anything of the sort, like I said it is to feel safe. If you have to buy him a car every time you are out, he could feel like because you have done this once or twice then it is a routine or cars could be his specialist interest which makes him happy and feel safe. Sorry I don’t know if I’m reading this right or not but if he slaps you in your sleep it might be him trying to communicate that he either can’t sleep, wants you, needs something, doesn’t feel safe, etc. Shutting your living room door may help him feel safe and protected but I’m not 100% sure. Remember that there is always a reason he does these things and it isn’t to be naughty or manipulative etc.

I will put some helpful links for you, I suggest you have a look.

www.nhs.uk/conditions/autism/autism-and-everyday-life/
www.nhs.uk/conditions/autism/what-is-autism/
www.nhs.uk/conditions/autism/other-conditions/
www.nhs.uk/conditions/autism/getting-diagnosed/
www.nhs.uk/conditions/autism/newly-diagnosed/
www.autism.org.uk/what-we-do/help-and-support
www.autism.org.uk/what-we-do/help-and-support/parent-to-parent
www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/stories
www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/behaviour/eating-1/parents
www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/behaviour/stimming/all-audiences
www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/behaviour/organising-and-prioritising/all-audiences
www.autism.org.uk/

Thank you very much for your reply it was very helpful I'm getting more of an understanding its very hard at time with my son I'm on the waiting list to see if his got autisum I'm 80th in the que so not sure how long it could take they did tell me hopefully a few months if he does have autisum what help could they give you because his still soo young his only 3 years

@elisha111 You're welcome. 80th is a long wait however, try to think positively as there are people who have waited over 2 years and try to think that at least you aren't 90th. Not sure what is and not open do to Covid but there are a lot of groups where parents and/or their special needs/autistic child can go and chat/play. Maybe if you contact a few groups and explain your circumstances, they will be able to help and you could join. I don’t know your area but I will link a few I know of and you can check them out. And there is also something called short breaks where they can give you respite for a bit and it can be beneficial for your child to socialize and you can have a break if you need to, not judging but we all need a break sometimes. I think you need to contact the local authority or another service for that and it is based around where you live. He is a bit young now but how about joining your child up for something like a scout group when he is older? Might help him socialize, make friends, learn skills, etc. www.hopskipandjump.org.uk/ www.time2share.org.uk/ www.steppingstonestrowbridge.co.uk/home.html www.forestpulse.co.uk/ www.nhs.uk/service-search/other-services/Autism%20support%20groups/LocationSearch/310 www.scouts.org.uk/beavers/ www.scouts.org.uk/cubs/

Thank you soo much for all your help and support I will deffo check it out and yeah when he does get abit older I will sign him up for scouts 👍🙂

@elisha111 You're welcome, always here to chat if you need to