I have not been diagnosed but I seem to have difficulty doing the most simple normal things. The more i read about this the more I think it is me in so many ways.
I have a decent job that requires great attention to detail but not too much social interaction. It suits me to a tee.
But when it comes to home life I really struggle. I just can’t get organised. I can never ever think of what meals to have and as a result we eat repetitively alot. I don’t seem to be able to plan more than a day at a time so end up going to supermarket every day.! Sometimes I just wander round not knowing what on earth to buy for the family and I feel panicky so i just grab a pizza and leave. I feel so guilty that I’m not doing my best nutritionally for my dc’s but they are so fussy it’s so hard to come up with 7 meals that we all like.
I’m similarly useless with household tasks. I will put washing in and then forget to take it out so then smells and have to wash it again. I can’t keep on top of the washing so then my dc’s end up running out of clean vests, socks etc.
I waste far too much time online looking for the perfect solutions to home organisation and then never have enough time to do any of it! I am a bad mum as I am often so busy ‘researching’ things on line that I miss what my dd is saying to me or I don’t get on with jobs I should be doing around the house.
There seems to be loads on life admin from schools etc to deal with. Sometimes I lose bits of paper or forget things although I am good at putting things on the wall calendar and in my phone.
I struggle getting up in the morning and so don’t always have time to have a shower and feel all rushed and am often running late. I set 3 alarms and still can’t get up!
I just feel that I’m not being the best mum that I could be but I just can’t seem to do it all. I look at some of the other mums and they always look immaculate as do their dc’s and they’re cooking healthy meals from scratch every day and doing everythinv so well.
Does anyone have any advice at all? Sometimes I wonder if I’m just lazy but it’s as if I’m always searching (online) for the perfect life organisation answers but never find them.
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Any advice please, I feel like such a rubbish wife & mum?
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Honey1975 · 02/10/2018 16:25
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