Does anyone else do this ?

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I don't have any diagnosis other than social anxiety. I have been doing a lot of research recently. I took the iq 50 test and got 32. I have a whole heap of symptoms but they have been put down to anxiety.

The one thing that I do that I have known was a bit odd but don't know why I do it is. If someone is looking for something and I know where it is I don't say anything if someone says "what was the name of that tv show" I know the answer but I don't tell them !

Does anyone else do this ? I am thinking probably not and I am pretty strange

Sometimes. When I first had an ed psych assessment, one of the things that the psychologist commented on was that I was very reluctant to give the right answer. I knew the answer (and it was right), but took a long time to give it. I’m not exactly a perfectionist, but I do hate getting things wrong, and am apt to give up on something quite quickly if I’m not good at it straight away.

God, my teachers complained about the same thing for years. They could see I knew the answer to the question but nothing on earth could get me to answer it in class. That started the ball rolling for them to send me to an educational psychologist who totally gave up on me. Had forgotten about that!

I'm autistic and am very contrary in my head at times. My husband calls it "oppositional defiance disorder" but I've no idea if that's really a thing.

It doesn't always happen but for example he'll ask me to do something ("could you open the washing machine?") and I sometimes have a long moment of hesitancy (inside thinking "no! No never! Shan't! Can't! Won't!" while trying to do it).

He'll sometimes rephrase and tell me to do the opposite, then something releases inside me and I can do it again.

God knows what it is inside me, it happens at work sometimes too and is really hard to overcome, obviously can't tell other people about that one.

I'm not diagnosed but reading about aspergers in women is like reading about myself. If I am about to do something and my partner asks me to do it just as I am about to I stop dead in my tracks and sit back down. It infuriates me that he has dared request whatever it is, even if it is what I was about to do and therefore likely a perfectly reasonable and logical request (and only something like unloading the dishwasher, hardly worth concerning myself about.) I have such strong feelings about it and really have to fight to calm myself and can only manage to then do the actual chore or whatever about a third of the time this happens. I thought it was just me being a bit crazy so am relieved to hear of these kind of experiences!

Sorry this is late but I never remember to check this section.

I am quite the opposite to this. If somebody asks a question, even if it's not directed at me and I know the answer it is almost impossible to stop myself from blurting it out. If they are addressing me and I know then I can't help it. This is quite unhelpful when trying to encourage DC to focus on a task or go to bed or something as they just know to engage me in conversation because I can't not answer!

I have ADHD so I assume it's part of the impulsiveness/lack of filter.

They could see I knew the answer to the question but nothing on earth could get me to answer it in class.

I was the same way. Most of the time it was because I was in my own little dream world but everyone just thought I was shy and too scared to raise my hand.